Lindsay and I became Firewalkers while attending an event with Tony Robbin’s. With just that alone in common, I knew so much about Lindsay already. She is all I expected and more.

Lindsay has the brightest light! Even virtually-speaking it is as if her spirit, ambition, and enthusiasm leaps off the screen.

I continue enjoy Lindsay’s adoration and dedication to her son. That love has a familiarity with me, as does her focus on raising a “kind child.” It will be a privilege to watch as both she and her son reap the reward of this parenting direction. Kindness?! What a concept!

Lindsay, “Be present! Show them how important they are. Show you care about what they have to say or show you. Enjoy the quality time with them. Everyone wants to feel loved and cared for, not ignored. Be present for them always.Tip #8

After reading her Lindsay’s tips I didn’t even know where to start. It was as if she was articulating my practices perfectly, better than I. I too felt to be effective, being present to be absolute must. You really can’t fool kids.

In my journey there were times I wasn’t feeling very “present.” Times I wasn’t thrilled with having to be a Mom. In those moments, I employed what I referred to as a “Meryl-Streep-Mother-Mode.” I reached to put my feelings aside, act mature, responsible, and even thrilled. I put on a happy face and “acted as if.”

We can all do this! It does requires focus, skill, and most of all maturity. Kind of follows the premise, “fake it until you make it.” Parents must be convincing and expression is a prerequisite.

I recall in my own upbringing, the phrase “I love you” was bounced off the wall every day; however, expression and authenticity were missing. It’s hard to believe you are loved, if the person telling you has their lip curled. As a child, I felt the words were empty when I heard them, and when I said them. I was not convinced. There was little expression, and no demonstration of happiness when I entered a room.

I wanted to do better for my son. I wanted to ensure Michael felt love, without any question. I wanted to convey it in words, actions, and feelings. I wasn’t always in a loving mood, but when I wasn’t I did launch into “Meryl-Streep-Mother-Mode.” Even when I wasn’t feeling so loving, I was sure to include expression, epic-award-winning expression.

I think at times, parents give themselves too much credit for just ‘being there.’ The belly aching about how they are “always there.” Sometimes just being ‘there’ can do more harm than good. I can say this from experience! The magic lies in being present, ever present. I may not have always been ‘there,’ but I was ever present.

What a strong foundation Lindsay’s son will have. The joys are far-reaching. I know the kindness and gratitude they share will impact lives for many years to come!

Thanks Lindsay!

Next week, Karen on enjoying every moment.

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  • Doreen Coady

    Author & Parenting Commentator

    Author of 100 Moms 1000 Tips 1 Million Reasons & 100 Dads 1000 Tips 1Million Reasons available on Amazon and major book stores.   Doreen is empty-nester who has spent the last five years collecting tips from 199 parents. Her heartwarming and real-talk, message on parenting is woven through their collective wishes and wisdom.   Parents are diverse in terms of age, culture, social-economic background, and beliefs. Contributions provide 2000 parenting tips from others interested in helping each other, especially new parents learning the ropes.   Every tip and commentary is distinct, providing a magnificent assortment of shared experiences. The collection conveys the depth, devotion, and breadth of parenting.   This is fun, enlightening, easy to read, and a highly relatable account of parenting successes and struggles.   For ‘the why,’ check out,, or search “100 Moms 1000 Tips” on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.