I would describe Linda as an authentic, and a woman of integrity. Upon meeting her, I wanted to learn from her, and to know her better.

Ironically, in another land, not so far away and unknown to us, our sons met. As Linda and I were sharing time and getting to know each other, our boys were doing the same. Isn’t that funny!?

As I was admiring Linda, and all she was, my son was also admiring similar qualities in her son. They too were connecting.

Of course, given all this happenstance, Linda topped my list of Moms. Having met her son, I was keen to have her involvement. Linda’s son is a spectacular boy, I should say young man. I would, not-so-humbly, say Linda’s son reminded me a lot of Michael.

Now, I not only appreciated Linda as a leader, but also as a Mom. I’m happy she put together some of her best advice to share.

Linda, “As parents, present a united front to your kids. Hash out your differences behind the scenes. Don’t let children ever see a divide. They will exploit the tiniest tear without mercy!Tip #4

A united front, has been a key component of our parenting. I never understood parents who played against each other, or the good cop/bad cop approach. To me, it just makes twice the work! I was trying my best to simplify things.

Of course, Big Mike and I did not always agree. Regardless, we would never let Michael see dissension. We too, would carry all disagreements behind the scenes. Luckily for us, our philosophies were generally the same. Also, luckily, Big Mike was willing to learn, listen, compromise, and often defer to me. J

I’m so thankful we upheld this approach. I think it provided security to Michael, and saved him from having to manipulate and/or work around one or the other. This approach saved us all time and heartache.

I can’t imagine parenting from two different sets of values and beliefs. I’m not sure how a marriage can hold up with extreme and contrasting parenting views.

I wouldn’t begin to offer advice on working with opposing views; however, I do strongly believe any opposition should be kept between adults. Kids do not need the confusion caused when they see their parents disagree, or the uncertainty.

We were kind of like a couple of ducks, smooth on the surface, but paddling like hell underneath. Parents have an obligation to do all they can to keep things going smoothly.

Thanks Linda! In our short time together you’ve been a solid, and unforgettable mentor to me. Thank you also for raising a great friend for my son, and for the two fine men proudly reflecting all you are, and all your union represents! 

For more information on parental unity: https://community.thriveglobal.com/stories/34486-co-parenting-tips

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  • Doreen Coady

    Author & Parenting Commentator

    Author of 100 Moms 1000 Tips 1 Million Reasons & 100 Dads 1000 Tips 1Million Reasons available on Amazon and major book stores.   Doreen is empty-nester who has spent the last five years collecting tips from 199 parents. Her heartwarming and real-talk, message on parenting is woven through their collective wishes and wisdom.   Parents are diverse in terms of age, culture, social-economic background, and beliefs. Contributions provide 2000 parenting tips from others interested in helping each other, especially new parents learning the ropes.   Every tip and commentary is distinct, providing a magnificent assortment of shared experiences. The collection conveys the depth, devotion, and breadth of parenting.   This is fun, enlightening, easy to read, and a highly relatable account of parenting successes and struggles.   For ‘the why,’ check out, https://99momsplusone.wordpress.com/, or search “100 Moms 1000 Tips” on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.