Do you wonder why so many good things are happening for other people and not for you?  Do you feel the frustration and anxiety build up every time you scroll through Social Media?

It’s normal to feel like giving up.  It’s easy to feel despair and feel like you are the only one going through these feelings.

Here are 3 ways to keep moving forward:

1. Read books about success that make you lose track of time.

When I was in a very challenging place in my life, a friend kept reminding me to read.  I wondered whether it would really help, so I went back to reading a few pages every day. I realized that reading helps to get me out of my own head and out of my unproductive thoughts.

This quote from Rachel Hollis’ book, in particular, resonated with me:

“We Need You To Stop Apologizing for who you are and become who you were made to be.” – Rachel Hollis.

How empowering would it be to live a life based on what YOU want instead of what others expect you to be? It can be a scary question if you have not been given the opportunity to think about what you want for yourself AND equally as exciting to think about who you would like to become.

2. Give more – find a way to give your time, energy or a small gift to someone.

A friend started bringing me small treats unexpectedly, instantly making me feel good again.  How can you share your amazing gifts with the world? Can you share an article to help a friend or stranger? Can you recommend your acupuncturist or chiropractor to a friend in pain? Can you bake some cookies for your neighbour? What small thing can you do to make someone’s day better?

Giving and releasing your expectations around wanting something in return can be challenging. It can also allow you to practice shifting your energy towards abundance instead of scarcity.  It can help you to see beyond your problem to help someone else and connect to a greater purpose.

According to an interesting study about giving and happiness (from Harvard Business School Professor Michael Norton and colleagues in 2008), “…giving money to someone else lifted participants’ happiness more that spending it on themselves (despite participants’ prediction that spending on themselves would make them happier).”

3. Take one small action daily.  

I love Arianna Huffington’s series on microsteps about taking action through a series of small steps.

What is the one action that you can accomplish today?  Following through and doing what you said you would do helps to build self-confidence and trust in yourself when things are challenging.  When you show up for yourself and your goals, you can build on that momentum and create consistency for results. Keep on going, (and trust me, I know how it feels to be confused and overwhelmed) know that you are building your mental muscles one step at a time!