Having a child transforms our view of the world. It’s not about bringing a human being world; it’s about improving us as people, giving our best, and helping our children develop their potential.
Responsible parenthood is “the permanent bond of blood, or relationship, between the father and the mother with their sons and daughters; with a social recognition, which involves feelings, rights and obligations, that parents must exercise responsibly. In such a way that an integral development of the family is achieved” Some important keys to becoming a responsible parent are:
1. Be an Individual:
The one who became a Dad or Mom, do not forget that its essence is, being an individual, vital to defend this principle, since being a father seems to be imposed or seen as a turn to the child, provide all the possible energies for his survival, when in reality we live a depersonalization, there are moments and even that, being a father becomes an act of personal renunciation, to the extent of not knowing what happens to oneself, disconnects and neglects the needs and intrapersonal desires. A person who seeks a balance between himself and the role of being a parent or any other social, work, etc. role may have more stability; feel more satisfied and full with what life gives him. Children also need to know their parents as individuals and not just as parents.
2. Wanting To Be a Parent:
We must question ourselves and reflect, why wish? Or who do we wish for? Why do I want to be a father or mother? How is one a father? and where will this relationship come to?, define and recognize if this desire is to cover my own satisfactions as an individual or as a parent or to meet the true needs of the child, since my actions will involve being deposited in the child and these will influence his future behaviors and decisions.
3. Role of Parents:
Those who have a role as parents must also assimilate understand that it will be equitable act teamwork, an act of raising, educating, transferring life to a new individual who is their child, breaking with an endless number of personal, marital, social schemes, etc. The dialogue between the couple in their role as parents, is required to share, plan, manage, negotiate, execute and remember how they were educated, raised, treated, share past experiences, present, to be able to negotiate what will be the best to teach their child.
4. Being a Couple:
Being a couple, as soon as they adapt to the new routine of the arrival of the child, or adapt to the routines of the children, it is important to prioritize times for the couple to meet again, discover each other in this stage of maturity, to enjoy personal or couple achievements, to talk about future plans, talk about affection, love and to enjoy the intimacy of the pleasure of being together. To reaffirm that fidelity, to confirm each other’s interest.
5. Being a Child:
When having a child, that is to say when He becomes aware we must explain to him, what it is to be a child, talk to him about his identity, help him discover what it is to be an individual and person, so he decides what he should be and can plan his life, on the other hand also explain what it is to be parents, what do you want or expect from the parents?, that is to say that to be a father a child is required and both parties must get to know each other, complementing each other, but being clear that it is each role and that it is expected of the other.
The majority of the population of children who come to Momaim, come with a family scheme and parental roles full of confusion, so it is necessary to work with them, their origin, identity, the figure of parents, family roles, as well as the issues of education, parenting, discipline and affection; the home is transmitting new schemes of ways of relating and living in a healthier way, so we are restoring the abuse in its various generalities.