1. Spend the day before Valentine’s Day apart … and Valentine’s together: Absence makes the heart grow fonder, or so they say. So prepare for your day or evening together with some “you time” away from your partner, to whet your appetite and be even more grateful for them and ready for the festivities of Valentine’s. And if you’re going to communicate with your partner during the time away, those texts are only about love, lust, or romance. No texts about who has to feed the dog! Handle that BEFORE your day away. 
     2. Give back, together: Spend the day contributing to others, together, like volunteering at a food bank as a couple. The act of giving will improve your outlook on life and bring you closer together.
     3. Get raunchy: Valentine’s Day is traditionally about romance and roses, but getting sexy with your partner does wonders for your relationship. Try the “50 Shades of Grey Experiment.” (This occurs in the bedroom if that wasn’t obvious.) Set the timer on your phone for 10 minutes. For the first ten, she’s in charge and can ask anything of him and do anything with him she desires. For the next ten he’s in charge. Then repeat as many times as is fun for both of you, for a truly memorable experience.
     4. Practice gratitude: Spend time on Valentine’s Day write down a list of everything you¹re grateful for about your partner. A sincere list of gratitude is worth more than expensive (and meaningless) dinners or gifts.
     5. Lose your mind (and focus on your body!): When you actively choose to do something that is fun and nurturing for you and your body, not only will you feel better; you will also have more energy for the other things, and people, in your life. Rejuvenate your relationship by making your body a priority on Valentine’s Day. What does your body love to do? Swim? Run? Maybe it’s Pilates or Yoga. Maybe it’s going for a walk in nature or taking a bubble bath.
    The most important thing to remember at Valentine’s Day — or any day — is that your relationship is unique and the way you celebrate your love should be, too. If you want to have a relationship, you should have a great and phenomenal one! Why settle for something just because other people find it valuable? Why settle for something that doesn’t truly make your heart sing?

About Dr. Dain Heer 
 Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness, and change and for the last 14 years has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness. His book, Being You, Changing the World — Is Now the Time? is published in seven languages. For more information visit

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  • Dr. Dain Heer

    Author, International Speaker & Creator of International Being You Day

    Access Consciousness

    Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness and change. Co-creator of Access Consciousness™ and Founder of International Being You Day, Dr. Heer invites people to embrace their true greatness—people from every culture, country, age and social strata of society. Originally trained as a chiropractor, he has a completely different approach to healing by facilitating people to recognize and follow their own abilities and knowing. Dain is the author of nine books on the topics of embodiment, healing, money, and relationships—and his book, Being You, Changing the World is an international bestseller. A guest on hundreds of nationally syndicated radio and TV shows including Fox News and Gaiam TV, Dr. Heer also hosts a regular radio show called Conversations in Consciousness.