I was shocked and moved when I first watched the Man Up TV Series. When initially watching the series I wanted to know what makes men and boys tick (my work in  achieving gender equality depends on engaging men in the conversation and actions.)

Being curious about how larger than life, humorous and likeable bloke Gus Worland was going to tackle the issues of emotions in men and boys also piqued my interest. For those who don’t know Gus, he is the archetypal Aussie bloke, into sports, beers and mates.  He’s also encountered one of the toughest things anyone has to deal with. The suicide of a close mate.

Watching the three-part series, back to back, saw me laughing and crying. It was a fascinating and horrifying insight into the world of what it means to be a man in Australia. Horrifying, because I learned that the biggest killer of men under 45 in Australia is suicide. Six men a day take their own lives. Three times more than women. (Although research tells us that suicide rates for women are rising.)

Gus Worland Man Up TV Series

Gus Worland Man Up TV Series


My most recent research paper has highlighted the need to get men involved in the conversation and importantly, the action to achieve gender equality. We know too well that men currently benefit from the gender hierarchy, mostly in material rewards and interpersonal power. However we also know that many men pay the price of poor emotional and physical wellbeing. Men globally have a shorter life expectancy than women and as we now know, men in Australia three times more likely than women to die due to suicide.

“The stereotypical Aussie man is strong, stoic and tough as nails. He laughs in the face of fear; and if life ever gets him down he drinks a cup of concrete and hardens the fuck up. But with male suicide rates three times that of women, it appears the pressure to harden up may be making some men crack.” – Man Up TV Series

Society holds idealistic views of masculinity, and while these views are generally positively perceived, they place immense pressure on men to live up to strict standards of masculine character. Falling outside those strict standards of masculinity is quite simply contributing to six men a day killing themselves.   It’s rightly called toxic masculinity, and in the words of Tim Winton, it’s when our boys and men feel the unrelenting pressure to join “The Shithead Army”.


Let’s call the elephant in the room. When it comes to levelling the playing field for women, there has to be a shift in power. There are those that contend that men have to relinquish all power. This is rubbish. Instead, let’s talk about equally distributing power, responsibility and work.

Achieving gender equality means we are enabling women and men to share the load (and the benefits thanks very much) and it also serves to bust open the  constricting and narrow definitions of masculinity and femininity we hold in this country. 

Busting open those narrow definitions and the roles that go wtih those definitions will assist to take what is in some cases, significant and dangerous pressure off men. Of course it will also, at the same time, empower women to share control and decision rights over how society, politics and the economy is organised. Sounds like a win/win to me!


When I hear the term work/life balance, I cringe and/or roll my eyes. We have life. Life is made up of many facets and as healthy, functioning adults, it is our responsibility to organise ourselves to make the most of each facet and to organise them dependent on the highest priority need.

Sharing responsibility for facets of life amongst men and women will no doubt enhance the quality of life for all of us, but in particular, for men.  This is why I advocate so strongly for wage equality, parental leave equality and flexible working cultures:

  • Wage Equality will encourage men and women to share work, in and out of the home, enabling men in dual earning families to spend less time at work and more time with family;
  • Parental Leave Equality will assist breaking the gendered stereotypes that discourage men from sharing the caring, reduce prejudice and discrimination; and promote inclusiveness of those with caring commitments.
  • Flexible work isn’t the domain of women with caring responsibilities. Men working flexibly are shown to be happier, healthier and are more likely to be engaged and productive at work and at home!

Put simply, dismantling rigid gender stereotypes and the narrow view of masculinity will  encourage men and women to share work, enabling men in dual earning families to spend less time at work and more time with family, volunteering, at sport and at life!


I desperately want men to:

  1. understand the very narrow paradigm of masculinity that society has  trapped them in.
  2. realise that gender equality is good for all of us.
  3. tap into and reap the benefits of shorter, more realistic and healthy working weeks.
  4. build on their relationships with their families, participate more actively in sport and the community.
  5. prioritise their own wellbeing and health.
  6. stop killing themselves at a rate of six per day.

Above all, I desperately want men and women to work together to achieve gender equality. Because our lives, quite literally, depend on it.



PukaUp: a social enterprise founded by one of Australia’s leading mental health advocates, Wayne Schwass.

Love Me Love You Foundation: is a non-profit organisation founded by Lance Picioane that strives to empower and build resilience in young adults so that they may overcome the stigma surrounding mental health and other life hardships.

The Man Cave: facilitating healthy masculinity for boys and young men.

Michelle Redfern is a workplace gender equality expert, speaker and consultant who advises leaders in sport and in business how to move gender diversity from conversation to action.