Make Your Thoughts Your Own
The first step to begin unlearning is to not give into those things that are constantly trying to get your attention. It is easy to get trapped in the power of the media. Take the time to be truly aware of your thoughts, because we make our minds our own by making them our own. Just because something comes from you, doesn’t mean that it is your idea; don’t let the media control your thoughts. You are a creator of your thoughts, but you can also create your thoughts. This is the first step in unlearning, and this is the easiest thing that we can do to become a master of our own thoughts.
As you begin to recognize and understand the power of your thoughts, you will be able to pick apart what you are thinking and why you are thinking that way.
Replace the Fear of Rejection with Embracing Change
Rejection is one of the biggest fears of human beings and we are often afraid to try new things because of it. But fear is natural, because when something big happens, we automatically think about it in our heads and that is it. This is how we stop ourselves from taking a chance and trying something new.
But change is a good thing and it is also liberating. If you think that you are scared of change, just remember that you can feel fear and then embrace it and at the same time, learn from it. Change will not hurt you and in fact, it will help you grow as a person. Try the following method to change your thoughts:
- I’ll be better off if I try it.
- I can’t do this.
- I’m not good at this.
Practice Patience
The more you try to get something, the more you will do in order to get it. The more you exert yourself, the more frustrated you will become. It is important to relax and practice patience.
If something is not working out in your life, do not get angry and get upset. You can still continue on, but keep in mind that this experience will pass and you will get a different result.
Do not try to force yourself to like someone or something. Just be yourself and let the opportunity be there for the taking. Do not say yes to something that you don’t like. You must remain true to yourself and be patient with everything that you do in life.
Be a Positive Person
It is difficult to achieve success with your mind if you are negative. Negative people tend to attract negative situations.
Learn to Let Go to Be Free
Your mind is a powerful thing, and your thoughts control all aspects of your life. If you are always trying to control things, then you are probably causing unnecessary problems. Your thoughts have the power to make you happy or sad, successful or unsuccessful, successful or unsuccessful. A lot of people let these problems control them and make them unhappy.
Learn to let go and release those thoughts that are not helpful to you. Just because something makes you feel bad, doesn’t mean that it is true. Learn to control your thoughts and use them to your advantage. You can use your mind to think positive and think about what you want. You can use your mind to have confidence and believe in yourself and your abilities.
Live in the Present Moment
Most people have so much in their heads that they fail to see the beauty that is in front of them. Learn to be in the moment and don’t worry about the past or the future; just focus on the present and what is happening right now. The present moment is when the whole world is looking at you, and if you can take time to be there then you will be a positive example to everyone around you.
No-Negotiating Mindset
We live in a society where people feel they have to make every single decision for every single person. When in actual fact, if you have to do that, then something must be wrong.
Focus on What You Want, Not What You Don’t Want
The simplest, yet most effective, way to get over our fears and inhibitions and start living life on your own terms is to ask ourselves a simple question: What do I want? Before you answer, it is imperative to be honest with yourself. If the answer is that you don’t want to do something, and your fear of that is greater than the pleasure or the excitement of the pursuit, then give yourself permission to say no. Your fear will have served a purpose at some point, and you don’t have to do things that you don’t want to do anymore. You may still have things that you don’t want to do, but make a pact with yourself to confront those fears, because that is how we learn to make positive changes in our lives.
Remember that you are always becoming
The only thing that is constant is change. It’s easy to take the things you already have and replace them with the things you want, but the truth is that you can never be complacent. Always work towards making yourself better, and always remember that you are always becoming. You never stop learning. As Nietzsche said, “You must be wrong a thousand times before you can be right once.”
Don’t look for the positive
It sounds kind of weird, but some people think that when someone is not positive that means they are negative. Not only does that not make sense, it also does not work. Think of someone who has gone through so much pain and hardship that they can only see the negative.