With a background in sales, I can sometimes be considered a pushy person. Yes, I want to get my way, but, no, I don’t want to alienate others in the process. Being a bit more assertive certainly has its pros and cons.
In terms of its advantages, if you’re pushier, you tend to get things done and reach your goals more quickly and efficiently. This can help you in a variety of situations including negotiations where being assertive is definitely a plus. If you’re pushy, you also tend to stand your ground and are more likely to ask for what you want and need (repeatedly). In general, pushy people are individuals who strive for achievement and have a results-oriented focus. This, coupled with their confidence, enables them to do better in competitive situations and leadership activities.
Those on the pushier side stand out more in the crowd and can therefore garner more attention and opportunities. Being more assertive can also help you handle and tackle obstacles more effectively since you know what it takes to achieve what you want.
On the other hand, there are certainly some disadvantages associated with being too pushy. Pushy people might alienate friends and coworkers because they come off as overly aggressive and inconsiderate of others’ feelings at times. Their assertive nature can make them seem as if they lack empathy while they are grinding towards their own wants and needs.
Additionally, if you are always pushing forward relentlessly, it can lead to stress and burnout for yourself as well as those around you. It can also create resistance from others who may resent your pushy nature. In the worst-case scenario, it can cause people to dislike and avoid you.
If you are like me- a pushy person who means well- there are some things you should consider to ensure that you keep your pushiness in check. For starters, know yourself and when it’s time to dial it back. Learn to become self-aware and take note of when your pushiness is causing discomfort for others. This will help you adjust your approach in real time. You should also balance your assertiveness with empathy. Try to listen actively and find a middle ground when needed. Be aware of your audience and ensure that healthy boundaries are maintained. Not everyone shares your urgency or priorities, so tailor your approach accordingly.
In general, being pushy can be a useful trait in helping you to achieve your goals. You’ll accomplish a lot and continue to move towards what you want. Just be sure to balance that assertiveness with respect and empathy for others and you’ll be unstoppable.