Playtime is one of the most important experiences to see curiosity, natural motivation, and interest in your child. It is an opportunity to step into their world and try to experience play through their eyes.

Have you ever noticed your child recreating the rules of a game? Or asking you to play monopoly, but suddenly you realize that you are taking a ride around the board with no dice? Perhaps you are playing a card game like go fish and your child wants you to pick 15 cards to start the game and instead of saying go fish – she wants to say Go Monkey?

If you listen closely, you will hear the amazing imagination that is at work inside of our children. Perhaps our first instinct is to correct them so that they learn the “proper” ways to play the “game;” however, from a child’s point of view, this is their game so who is to say what is proper or improper. When we follow their lead, their imagination flourishes. When we allow them to navigate the game, in whatever way they choose, we are empowering them to lead us.

Play and imagination are crucial to the development of our children. Many times, this is diminished in their lives because either there is not enough down time for them to create or go outside in nature and use their imagination, or imagination is shut down. If our kids are overscheduled, their imagination could potentially suffer. We all need downtime.

When given the opportunity, our children have incredible imaginations. I can remember wanting to control the rules of a particular game when my kids were young, thinking this is not how it is played. I then realized or asked, why does it matter? This is where real empowerment exists. We need to allow our children to lead us.

How much control do our children really have in life? When we offer the platform of play with autonomy and leadership, it lights them up, empowers them and makes them feel good about themselves, in turn, building self-esteem and confidence.


  • Sue DeCaro

    Heart-Centered Life and Parent Coach, Worldwide

    Sue is a heart-centered coach, educator, motivational speaker, and International Bestselling Author, working with individuals, corporations, and families around the globe to navigate life’s daily challenges.    While integrating education, consciousness, and coaching, Sue helps individuals to feel empowered, grow and thrive. Her passion is to help people deeply connect to themselves, to their children, and of course, to the world around them, creating a brighter future.   Sue also serves as a member of the Wellness Council for the Unionville-Chadds Ford School District, focused on researching and identifying best practices related to improving student health. She served as a Guest Parent Specialist/Coach for Mindvalley University Training and an esteemed member on the 24-hour virtual help desk support team for month-long summer event in Pula, Croatia, 2019.   Sue has had writings featured in various online publications and magazines. She has presented at events featuring Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Neale Donald Walsch, Marianne Williamson, Anita Moorjani, and John O’Sullivan. Sue has been an invited guest on radio shows and podcasts and has also appeared on Television, on The Dr. Nandi Show as well as a number of appearances on FOX 29, Good Day Philadelphia.