I just turned 32.
And I just wanted to tell the younger women, or even women my age, that there is no time limit you have on anything you want to do, have, or be. There’s a few things I’ve picked up and added to my core being over the years, and here are some of them.
There is no man worth the anguish that buries your sparkle- if it drains you, if it feels like you have to prove yourself, he’s not for you.
Be okay with things not being for you.
So many things were not for me. So many men were not for me. So many friends weren’t for me. So many job opportunities weren’t for me. So many awards weren’t meant for my achievements.
You can be any size and wear a swimsuit.
You can be any size and flail around on the beach in front of a camera like you’re about to be on the cover of sports illustrated.
You can be any size and get the greatest, biggest penis attached to a 6 pack you’ve ever seen in your life.
Speak up- be confident in telling people what you want, how you feel, what works and what doesn’t for you.
Create deep friendships with women who want you to win.
Create deep friendships with women who inspire you to want to win and who give you fresh perspective.
Create a deep relationship with yourself- the fabric of your skin and the delicate and intricate vibrations of your brain and be vigilant about caring for your mental health.
Forgive it without having to relive it. You can release anger and hurt without having to revisit it over and over or stay around what did it in the first place.
Have a fat savings account, and an online high yield savings account you can’t touch, and a little bit invested in a diverse portfolio.
You can get up in the middle of Christmas dinner if uncle Larry says racist sh*t again. You can still love your family and tell them what you stand for.
Create with your hands, move your body, even if it hurts or parts can’t move without the help of someone else or you feel weighed down by an invisible ton of bricks.
Go outside every single day and deeply breathe in the air and feel the sunshine directly on your face.
Even if the clouds hide it, you know deep within the core of your being that it is there and will always be.
Connect with what makes your soul vibrate- even if a job can’t be glamorous, be adamant about creating impenetrable joy in the little things at that job and the activities you do outside of it.
When it scares you, close your eyes, count to 3 and by the time you hit 2, already do it. Never make it to 3. When you make it to 3 you make it to hesitation.
Be impeccable with your word. All we have in this world is our word, everything else is up in the air.
Never break a promise to yourself, ever again. Not even one more time. Not this time.
You can restart and reinvent yourself at any time.
I’m 32 years old.
I’ve done a lot.
But I’m not done. And neither are you.
We are just getting started.