When we first set goals we are excited just by the thought of what could happen when we reach them. Then eventually that excitement dies down and in turn our motivation also wanes. It is in those moments that we are often tempted to give up completely on something that was extremely important to us. 

There are many times and many different reasons that we want to give up. It could feel like there is not enough time, or that the process is just too overwhelming. I get that completely, we all go through that. In my experience the fact that I was able to push through those feelings and reach my goals has inspired me to write this article. 

There’s an old Chinese saying: “The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.” Take a moment and think what would happen if you did not give up. How could you life change if you accomplish your goal in spite of all of the setbacks and obstacles? You could have a change to live your dreams!

 How many times have you given up just to look back with frustration that you gave up too quick. The temptation to quit will always be there, but that does not mean you need to feed into that temptation. Chose to work towards your goals despite everything else that makes you want to stop. 

 Listed below are five things we can do to avoid giving up:

  1. Find an accountability partner. It is so important that we identify someone we are close with who will help to push us. Accountability partners require you to take responsibility and also helps you to stay true to your commitment . Make sure to maintain constant communication with your accountability partner.
  2. Be sure to single task. Sometimes we want to quit because we have overwhelmed ourself and the tasks seem unbearable. When we single task it takes the pressure off and become more productive. When we are more productive it helps us to feel more motivated to keep going.
  3. Sleep on the decision. As women we often react emotionally. Instead of being brash with our decisions it is imperative to think through our decisions and all of the potential outcomes. If you give yourself a day it allows you to be sure that you are making the right decision.
  4. Identify why you began. If you spend even fifteen minutes writing down what you were working for in the first place it may trigger you to remember why you started in the first place. It also helps to jot down all of the things you have accomplished this far . The point of doing this is to make it clear that going forward is the only viable option.
  5. Review your expectations. Expectations change your perception of reality and can cause you to feel discouraged. Rome was not built in a day. We have to remember this is the same for our goals in life as well . If you realize your expectations are unattainable try to redefine them. The goal should be to create growth, but not at the cost of you causing yourself to feel overwhelmed.

What are other strategies that you have used to avoid giving up when times get tough?


  • Dr. Nicolya Williams

    Life Coach and Best Selling Author

    Dr. Nicolya Williams is the type of woman who pursues her goals with passion and determination. She is dedicated to helping other women Conquer their Chaos and reach their goals. Dr. Nicolya is a personal development coach, radio host, best-selling author, and blogger for women. Dr. Nicolya graduated from The Ohio State University (B.A., Psychology) and obtained her M.Ed from the University of Dayton with a focus on Clinical Counseling and School Counseling. Dr. Nicolya graduated with honors from Concordia University-Portland with her doctorate in Transformational Leadership. Dr. Nicolya holds a Coach Practitioner certificate and is licensed as both a Community Counselor and School Counselor, with a Chemical Dependency Counselor Assistant license. As a coach, Dr. Nicolya divides her time between empowering women one-on-one, and motivating groups of women through Master Classes. She enjoys encouraging women to write their own books; to tell their stories and share their message. To reach her audience, Dr. Nicolya speaks at conferences and acts as a mentor to women around the world, teaching them to rediscover their spark after divorce and breakups. Dr. Nicolya, a lifelong learner, strives to continue her personal growth through reading and interacting with her social and spiritual community. She is an avid reader and is devoted to building up her own strong women; her two daughters, Kaelyn and Kamryn. Dr. Nicolya is committed to creating a space for women to be heard and find the happiness and success they deserve! You can connect with Dr. Nicolya at nicolyawilliams.com or on all social media platforms via @NicolyaWilliams.