You guys came through again! I love it when you send me quotes that make me think. This one comes from Richard Dictor and the quote he gave me was, “Takers eat well, givers sleep well.” (Click to Tweet)
I hear and think of the book, Give and Take by Adam Grant. Similar to the quote, he classified everybody as one or the other. This is why it made me think.
I don’t feel it is fair to categorize people as one or the other. Why can’t we be both? Personally, I believe we should be both. In fact, this idea is based in two of the 7 mindsets of a connector from my book, The Connector’s Advantage.
1. Have A Clear Vision. This means you know what you want and are willing to ask for it. You accept the help that people are willing to give you. By doing this, you are both a giver and a receiver. You take the assistance offered and you make the person providing it feel valued and valuable – that would make you a giver. Be clear, ask, and allow somebody to feel valuable and provide value to you. Perhaps you can look at it as giving somebody the opportunity to feel how good it feels to be a giver.
2. Have A Generous Spirit. A generous spirit you would think is simply a giver. You give because you can, because you want to and give without expectation of anything in return. This is one of the key Laws of Likability; the Law of Giving. I believe in being a giver. I also believe in being a taker, though I feel like taker has such a negative connotation. Let’s call it receiver (it’s less judgy.) Just as when you are willing to receive, it is also an act of giving. It’s hard for people to accept help. But everybody wants to feel helpful. Everybody wants to add value. So by having a generous spirit, you are also receiving the good feelings that go along with that act of kindness.
I want to challenge everybody out there to think about something that they want, they’re working on that they need and put it out there. Share it. Don’t forget, there’s a lot of different ways to make an ask that doesn’t put the relationship at risk. Check out this blog post to refresh your memory. How to Ask for What You Want: 5 Easy Ways to Make a Request
Remember, if you don’t ask, as I always say to my kids, the answer’s no. When you ask, you immediately increase your odds of getting a yes. What do you want to ask for?