Women over 50 have been talking about the feeling of invisibility for years. Most women have felt it. Some more than others.

What are the connotations and ramifications of the label of invisibility?

Becoming invisible happens slowly, we don’t suddenly disappear, it is a gradual fading, almost imperceptible. Except for the feeling deep inside that something is changing, we barely realize it is happening.

Then one day we realize we are irrelevant and have become invisible within the eyes society. However, invisibility is not about aging. It is about how our culture imposes the stigma upon us.

For this reason, many women resist the aging process. Holding onto youth, shielding the truth of reality from themselves. They have not made peace with their reflection in the mirror.

Nothing in nature stands still, why are we resisting? 

When I decided to follow the course of nature and let my gray hair shine, I let go of pressures that I hadn’t realized I was carrying around. Pressures of how I was taught to be.

I am not advocating all women to go gray, it is a personal choice just like our wardrobe. Yet, for me, it was a gateway to my authentic self. Letting go of the pressure to stay young was liberating.

Evidence of aging was not a ticket to invisibility, it was quite the opposite, it was a ticket to freedom.

It was a badge that said I could be and do as I wished. I no longer needed society’s permission to be me.

No longer hindered by limiting constricts, I now saw qualities like gratitude, kindness, empathy, and compassion more than I saw physical traits.

These qualities are invisible to the eye and it brings me back to the concept of invisibility.

Because someone cannot see us does not mean we are invisible, or we are of lesser value, it means they are looking for something we are not and ignoring the ‘who’ standing before them.

People have always been labeled. The adulterer, the witch, the spinster and the label of invisibility is no different. It is just something society has pinned upon us.

It is time to rethink how we choose to respond.

Perception is one of our greatest tools.

The power we wield is in the way we respond to the challenges which are presented to us. To change how society perceives us, we simply no longer buy the concept we are irrelevant. This shift in response will affect change.

While the label of invisibility at first felt like an affront to me, it actually provided a gift to explore who I am outside of societal norms and expectations.

Evolution equals change. The evolution of ourselves comes from no longer following and abiding by the status quo.

 Transform from Invisible to Invincible:

Change our mindset.

Stop complaining about our age.

Stop blaming others for how they perceive us.

Change our inner dialog.

Adjust to reality.

Become our extraordinary selves.

Because we age, does not mean it’s too late to redefine our identities. We are 38.4 million cool, impactful, self-aware boomers. Let us embrace our wisdom and honor our value and worthiness.

The choices we make are paving the way for the generations of women to follow. Let us become the social trend worth following.


  • Charisse Glenn

    Casting Director, Equestrian and Creator of The Let Go

    Charisse Glenn, Casting Director, Equestrian, and Creator of The Let Go She is 63 pushing upwards, gray, aging gracefully and has lots to say.  She is half Japanese and has the wisdom of that culture she was born into. US-born she has been a casting director for commercials in Los Angeles for 35 years and is an equestrian having competed in 100-mile horse races around the world. The blog she writes called The Let Go serves as a reminder to let go of all that no longer works in our lives, opening a pathway to happiness, love, and balance. Proudly she embraces the freedoms age provides serving as a role model to both men and women. She is a badass with a beautiful soft touch. You can find her on either of her websites or follow her on social media. Follower her on Clubbhose: Let That Shit Go!