By Matthew Hussey

How can you fall into the trap of pursuing someone who isn’t really in love with you?


Even if all of our friends and family know we are pursuing the wrong thing, we’ll hold onto hope because we live for the “maybe.”

“Maybe he’ll come around. Maybe he secretly does love me. Maybe he’ll change his feelings.”

We feed on the tiniest scraps of attention – a text, a conversation, some kind words and affection he gives before going cold and pulling away again.

But this is a recipe for misery.

I don’t want you to build on what could maybe happen in an imaginary future, I want you to invest in an amazing guy who is serious about you right now.

Here’s how to do it…

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