I read an article today that said the discomfort we’re all feeling right now is grief. *Intrigued* I dove into the piece that shared our collective feelings of loss of certainty have us all going through the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, sadness and finally acceptance.

I compared the feelings I’ve had over the last couple of weeks to the grief I lived through when my Dad passed. Huh. Funny thing. They are about the same: My Facebook video last week thinking I had nothing to “say” was the bargaining/sadness stage. My Facebook live broadcast about how to dress for productivity expressed my move toward acceptance, but between those messages were waves of emotion connected to the grief cycle. I was moving through it.

There is both power and confidence in recognizing when you’ve conquered something before. After I realized what I was feeling, I went into doing what I did the last time I experienced deep grief. It’s what I’ve been doing since the end of last week.

I want to share a few ideas with you, and maybe they will spark a way forward for you:

“Hear everything you need in silence.”

The world is loud – always – but doesn’t always hold your answer. Go quiet. Go inside. There is an ocean of knowledge and a valuable conversation that, when you have it with yourself, will show you meaning that moves you through the stages of grief. Turn down the volume of everyone else working their process and hear what you need to that will serve you.

“Create something: anything.”

A creative process requires you to tap into what’s not in your mind but in your heart. When you make something, you’re with yourself. You’re honoring your expression. Make music, make food, write, draw, paint, sew – anything. Also, release judgment about what you make. Whether it’s good or not is not the point. You’re doing it to free yourself and your feelings into something that represents where you are.

“Simply, move, and move simply.”

I’ve been Salsa dancing to a few songs every night in my garage. I’ve been walking and on my Pilates mat every few days too. “Move the feelings around” is what I was told by one of my long time mentors. It works, and when you move the feelings move around, lots of them move out (especially with music you love). I’ve even found they move into what I’m creating; new ideas flourish.

So that’s what I can offer you today. Acknowledge our collective feelings, your own individual grief, work to move the feelings, and toward a kind of acceptance that feels right for you.

Wishing you to #bewell.


  • Michele Charles Gustafson

    Certified Image Consultant & Master Life Coach, Amazon Best-selling Author

    Michele Charles Gustafson is a strategic marketing consultant turned Certified Image Consultant, Certified Master Life Coach, and award-winning international success mentor. She is the creator of Hue And Style® - a mentorship platform where she teaches growth-focused entrepreneurs, professionals, and community leaders how to transform their self-belief and personal brand presentation into a superpower. Michele teaches that nothing new happens without fresh confidence and that how you see yourself in the mirror either fuels or stalls your self-esteem, business, career, and relationship goals. After working with thousands of women and more than two decades of success combining self-development clarity, personal branding strategies, image consulting concepts, and success mindset techniques, Michele’s highest aim is to help women activate their greatest potential, make their mark, and live a blissful, purpose-filled life. Michele is an author of two books including a children’s book, Angel In Your Heart, and her latest release an Amazon best-seller called Show Up Confident. She has been a featured contributor here on Thrive Global, has worked in collaboration with a global cosmetics brand for women of color, IMAN Cosmetics, and has appeared as a regularly featured guest on, CTV Your Morning,  Canada’s leading nationally-broadcasted morning show. Michele loves journal-writing, morning coffee, and resides in Northern Alberta, Canada.