Most People Live Their Lives Backwards

If you are guilty of structuring your days around task completion and the ever-elusive “to do” list, only to feel like there’s never “enough” time in the day to get it all done, then you’re not alone…

As multi-passionate entrepreneur raising three young kids while running two businesses, I can relate. Most of my days are so full that I multi-task and try and get more done faster only to lose the sense of focus, peace, and presence that I so desperately crave.

In my coaching sessions with clients ranging from Executive leaders to single moms, I constantly hear how busy people are and how much they desire a different way of living: One that feels free of the struggle of doing it all in favor of enjoying the relationships and opportunities they have.

A wise college mentor once told my UCLA undergraduate self, “You can do it all. You just can’t do it all at once.” Her words still ring true now, maybe even more than ever as I parent with purpose and lead with intention.

As parents, we all have heard the saying “the days are long, but the years are short.”

How are are you living your days that make up these precious years?

So often, it feels like we’re living life in fast-forward – scrambling to get mouths fed, bottoms wiped, laundry folded, meals prepped, and emails sent. Hustling, moving, going, doing. There is no pause button and we only power down once it’s all done…or when we crash!

Let’s find and honor our “enough point” by exploring the core value of sufficiency.

Choosing Sufficiency

In a world where efficiency has become currency, no one teaches us how to find and honor our “enough point” so we can hit pause or stop to celebrate what we’ve done and how far we’ve already come. Instead, we fixate on what’s undone and won’t let our minds or hearts rest.

When we prioritize doing over being, we sell out on fulfillment for the sake of achievement.

Leslie M. Bosserman

Wayne Muller, author of A Life of Being, Having, and Dong Enough shares that “Enough is a verb, a conversation, a fugue, a collaboration. It is not a static state, something achieved or accomplished. It is relational by nature unpredictable, punctuated by wonder, surprise, and awe.”

When do you choose efficiency over sufficiency? Too often, the busyness of doing overtakes the thoughtfulness of being.

While living a life fueled by productivity, finding peace can be a struggle. So we must reframe how we’re thinking and restructure how we’re leading. Here are three ways you can choose to focus on sufficiency and invite more self-acceptance into your life.


We are asked from young age “what do you want to DO when you grow up?” but what if we change the question? What if, instead, we were asked “who do you want to BE when you grow up”? This reframe get us thinking BIGGER about the type of life we’re creating and what’s truly important. When we restructure how we’re living based on these core values and priorities, we can BE more intentional with what we choose to DO.


Everything you say “yes” to has a corresponding “no” since we have a finite capacity of time, energy, and talent. That means, everyone has an “enough point” – the place when things are done or even “good enough” to hit pause or stop for the day. We must choose what “enough” looks and feels like in each task or season so we can find rest and peace in the sufficiency of a day well lived and a life well led.


It’s time to retire your traditional “to do” list in favor of a celebratory “TA DA” list! When considering what we need to complete, most of us write down everything that is yet to happen, rather than taking time at the end of each day to take stock of what you already have accomplished. While both have their purposes, make sure you’re carving out a few minutes each day to recognize your efforts and celebrate your achievements!

What is the biggest thing you can do now to invite more sufficiency into your life?

Wayne Muller’s wisdom holds true: “The more we choose the next right thing based on what we love and less on what we can handle, we are likely to have many sources of sufficiency and nourishment.”

Start today. Even a small step of claiming more rest, acceptance, focus, and renewal will go a long way to finding and honoring your “enough point” as you become the person you intend to be.


  • Leslie M. Bosserman

    Founder and Executive Coach

    Lead With Intention®

    Leslie M. Bosserman, M.Ed., CPCC is an Executive Coach and Lifestyle Strategist for innovators and creative professionals leading dynamic and diverse teams. As a creative thought leader, Leslie has spoken at TEDxEustis and is currently writing a book on a decade of research around the science of Emotional Endurance. After working for a decade in higher education and student development, Leslie launched Lead With Intention® – a boutique coaching and consulting practice that specializes in leadership coaching, customized training, and organizational strategy for clients and their teams around the world. She collaborates with a range of creative professionals from entrepreneurs launching their startups to executive leaders at Fortune 500 Companies. Leslie is committed to enhancing her local community and co-created and launched The Makers Place™ with her husband. As the regions first coworking space with onsite childcare, this innovative multi-use space supports parents who need a professional workspace along with flexible childcare options. She also currently works as the Director and Site Supervisor of Mini Makers™ Preschool. Leslie has also served locally on the leadership team for TEDxSacramento as the Event Coordinator and volunteered as a coach for emerging female leaders through The Women's Impact Alliance (formerly The Coaching Fellowship). As a two-time UCLA alumna, Leslie graduated with her Bachelor’s in Mass Communications (B.A.) and a Master's of Education (M.Ed.). She is also trained as a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) through The Co-Active Training Institute, international leaders in Coach Training and Leadership Development. Before becoming a Professional Coach, Leslie worked at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign where she taught leadership and diversity classes as well as ran a campus-wide Leadership Certificate Program for over 500 students, faculty, and staff members. She also has worked professionally in residential life and academic research at UCLA and in Public Affairs at Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory under the U.S. Department of Energy. Leslie loves to travel and explore new places and has visited over 30 countries, including living abroad in the Middle East for a year where she volunteered at local schools in Amman, Jordan with her husband. She is an avid artist and creative who also enjoys karaoke, cooking ethnic food, supporting local coffee shops, and practicing yoga. Leslie is a novice pickleball player and an expert bargain shopper! She lives in Northern California with her husband and three young children, and travels internationally for coaching, organizational trainings, and retreat facilitation.