Do you want to be a better leader? Mindset is 80% of the game.
You could argue I am just regurgitating an old saying I may have read in yet another self-help book.
However, I have seen hundreds of people creating a thriving business through mindset.
I have seen people being their worst enemy by simply refraining from showing up.
If you are currently struggling to be a better leader, chances are that you are not taking charge of your emotions, and letting them run you.
The ol’ saying of “life does not happen to you” is true.
Hey, I have been there myself. It’s okay to fall into this trap now and then. However, if it starts to become a daily habit, it’s time to make a change. Why?
Because that’s how we’re going to see the world every day – and we do not want that, do we?
This quote pretty much sums it all up for me:
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” — Charles R. Swindoll
See, you can be proactive OR reactive. That is literally all you can control. Reactive people live in a state of no control.
They choose a place where their emotions are no longer in their control and limiting beliefs are given free rein to do their thing.
Proactive people are very different, as they stop letting life steer the wheel.
The best way to do that? Realise what they have control over, and what is outside of their control.
To put it bluntly, well, they can no longer bullshit themselves.
How does this help YOU be more successful, grow your audience or build a business? It develops a muscle of resilience and persistence.
However, I will not be here to tell you that you’ll feel like this every day. Some days will be hard for you too. Seriously, during those days write it out, or voice it to your BFF. Do not keep it inside.
You see, our mind relives moments again and again until we let go of them and get them OUT of our heads.
”Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and performance. Proactive people carry their own weather with them.” — Stephen Covey
“Proactive people carry their own weather with them.” Says author Stephen Covey. I wholeheartedly believe that. Do not let setbacks define you, team. You are much better than that.
Here are three things you can ask yourself in those moments:
What can you control?
If you are a perfectionist AND control freak like me, you’ll most likely be wanting to control the things you clearly have no power over. Totally been there. This is why I would say, first you have to get clear about what you can and cannot control. If you cannot control it in any way just let go of it. Stop thinking about it.
Most times there is SOMETHING about your issue or worry that you CAN control, and that is what you should be thinking about.
”Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” — Steve Maraboli
Can I shift my focus towards the solution?
This is another biggie. We spend about 80% of our brainpower on the problem – which, arguably, does not get us ANYWHERE. Our focus is a magical tool indeed (stressing on the magical here).
I love a good bit of Tony Robbins and I love what he says about problems and solutions: ”Identify your problems, but give power to your solutions.”
Can I please get an amen?
This leads me to my third question which is:
What action can I take to solve this issue?
This is another place we get massively stunted. Taking action. Taking action should be easy enough, but that’s where most of us fail.
We get all excited about the theory and we lack in the next viable step, taking action.
Some of it is fear of what has not happened yet – funny how our brain works, hey?
However, resilience can truly make or break the outcome. Say the action you take does not bring the result you want: what do you do then? Go back to point number one and do it again.
Rinse and repeat, really.
If you want to be the CEO of your life (as well as a business) you have to get crystal clear on your own limiting beliefs.
You might not want to hear this, but if you want to fully support and help your clients online you need to be able to get inwards and really look at yourself first.
This is why I set up a free online Summit to help people getting through the noise and go past their mindset.
We’ll be joined by 15 speakers, including the lovely Lauren Barber, who shares with us her journey as a coach, as a teacher, and before anything else as a student. Being a better coach is not about charging 10,000s, it is about being authentic and holding the space for the people that need your help.