I won’t pull any punches with this one: self-love is hard. But it’s not impossible, and it’s for everyone who isn’t already there. If you’re feeling stuck or frustrated, I have some ideas for moving forward and maybe even getting that love flowing in your life!
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
When you compare yourself to others, you are doing two things:
- You are making it impossible for yourself to be happy with yourself. You will always find someone who is better than you at something, and even if they aren’t, that doesn’t mean that they’re happier than you.
- You are wasting time on something that doesn’t matter and can hurt your self-esteem in the long run. When we focus on our successes instead of looking at what others have done better than us (or worse), we will feel better about ourselves overall and start loving ourselves more easily!
Don’t Worry About Others Opinions
No one wants to feel like they’re being judged or criticized, but when it comes to loving yourself, you mustn’t let other people’s opinions affect how you feel about yourself.
It doesn’t matter if someone says, “You’re so skinny!” or “OMG, that was so stupid. Why did you do that, or you should go on a diet.” These are just words, and they shouldn’t matter in the long run. Instead of worrying about what others say and do, focus on what makes YOU happy!
Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes
One of the best ways to start loving yourself is by allowing yourself to make mistakes. Mistakes are inevitable, and we all have to deal with them at some point or another.
It’s okay if you don’t know what you’re doing sometimes–it’s expected! Don’t let fear keep you from trying new things or taking chances; instead, embrace it as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Sometimes doing things differently than usual can lead us down paths we never even knew existed before–and those are always good places for us humans (or any other type of creature) who want more out of life than just being comfortable all the time.
Remember, Your Value Doesn’t Lie in How Your Body Looks
Do you know what’s great about your body? It’s yours. You get to be the one who decides how it looks and feels, what it does and doesn’t do. You can wear whatever clothes make you feel good, eat whatever food makes you happy, and move around in ways that make sense for your body.
You don’t have to be afraid of getting older or gaining weight (or losing weight). Your worth isn’t determined by how much flesh is on display; it comes from within–and no matter what happens externally, if there are people out there who find value in themselves based on their appearance alone, then they’re missing out on something far greater: being comfortable with who they are inside!
Let Go of Toxic People
If you want to start loving yourself, you must let go of toxic people. Toxic people bring you down and make you feel bad about yourself. They often try to make the best out of their own lives by making yours look worse than it is. These people will tell you that your dreams are too big, or they’ll tell others how much money they make to not be seen as inferior in comparison (this can also come from family members).
Toxic people usually have low self-esteem but don’t know how to cope with their feelings besides putting them onto others through negativity or criticism. They’ll often find fault with anything good that happens for other people because deep down inside themselves, they know there’s something wrong with them too–and this makes them feel better about themselves when someone else isn’t happy either!
Face Your Fears
It’s natural to be fearful at times. This is a natural emotion we all experience in our life. But on the positive side, it can also be a motivator. The more you face and push through your fears, the stronger you’ll feel. Fear is not always bad; if we didn’t have some fear response when we’re doing something new or challenging ourselves out of our comfort zone, life would be pretty boring!
Fear can be managed by taking baby steps toward what makes us nervous or anxious–the more we practice facing our fears instead of avoiding them (like many people do), the easier it becomes over time. And by practicing this kind of courage and bravery in other areas (e.g., starting up your own business), eventually, all those little successes add up into one big win: self-love!
Trust Yourself to Make Good Decisions
- Trust your instincts.
- Don’t make decisions based on what others will think.
- Refrain from making decisions based on what you think you should do.
- Refrain from making decisions based on what you think you need to do.
And if all else fails, remember: You can always fall back on the old adage “Do as I say, not as I do.”
Take Every Opportunity That Comes Your Way
It’s not easy to love yourself, but it is possible. It’s something that you have to work on every day.
Take every opportunity that comes your way. Don’t be afraid to take risks, speak up when you feel like nobody else will ask for help when you need someone else’s perspective on something or if they could lend an ear while you talk through something with them, and take chances even if the outcome isn’t guaranteed–because sometimes we learn more from our failures than our successes! And lastly, don’t be afraid of making mistakes because they’re simply learning experiences in disguise!
Put Yourself First
If you’re like most people, you’ve got a lot on your plate. You’re busy and preoccupied with other things: work, family, friends–the list goes on. It can be easy to forget about yourself and start putting others first. But doing so means that your needs will get pushed aside (and if they don’t get pushed aside at the moment, they’ll build up until they do). So how do we put ourselves first?
The first step is recognizing that our needs are just as important as anyone else’s. We all deserve happiness and fulfillment in our lives; when we make choices that prioritize others above ourselves without considering our own well-being or satisfaction with life overall (or even just one specific area), it’s easy for resentment and anger toward those closest around us begin building up over time because they don’t understand why we seem so unhappy all the time even though everything seems fine externally speaking when really there may be something deeper going on underneath all those layers which could lead us down a path towards depression/anxiety, etc.
Embrace Pin and Joy
- Embrace Pin and Joy
- Be kind to yourself. You are worthy of love, and you deserve to be treated well. When you feel bad about yourself or how your life is going, focus on what’s good in your life instead of what isn’t working out exactly as planned.
- Be grateful for what you have: family, friends, pets- anything that improves your life! Being grateful for these things will help you feel more positive about yourself and less worried about things outside your control (like whether or not someone else loves/likes/respects/admires YOU). It also helps keep things in perspective when they get stressful because there’s always something good waiting around the corner!
So, there you have it. If you want to start loving yourself, I suggest you love the things that make you unique, celebrate your successes and failures without judgment, and take care of yourself in whatever way feels right for who you are.