How do you feel when you say these words: “vetting process”?

Do you cringe and feel an uncomfortable twitch in your stomach? You are not alone.

Vetting is about judgment. Will I fit in? Do I have the right pedigree and credentials?

Alternatively, certain types of communities are choosing to divest themselves of the vetting process.

They “accept” everyone.

Altruistic inclusion challenges many communities’ premiere asset: exclusivity.

Recently, I had an informational membership tour in a Manhattan community.

Here is the conversation:

LK: “What does your vetting process entail?” (I am thinking to myself, “prior to being offered an interview you will need to submit letters of reference, bio, press, etc.”)

Community (without missing a beat): “We don’t have one.”

LK: I thought I might not have expressed my question correctly or clearly. I repeated myself and her answer was the same. I then asked, “You let anyone join?”

Community: “Yes.”

LK: I blushed and sat down. I was shocked and confused. This was the first time I had ever heard this philosophy in Manhattan. WAIT! It gets even more engaging.

I asked, “What do you do when a member breaks a rule, for example, brings alcohol onto the premises or intrudes on another member when they are not interested in having a conversation?”

Community: “We try to help them! We want to understand why they behaved this way. We want to help them see that what they did was wrong and not part of our philosophy. We want to work with the member and try to resolve this issue

within themselves and the club. We do not want to ask them to leave.”

LK: I fell back into my chair and slumped down deep. I heard myself say out loud, “This is very Danish in theory. I think New Yorkers will be intrigued, drawn and rebuffed by this doctrine.”

LK: I am pausing to bask in this rare experience of altruism, civility and grace. Please ask yourself. “When was the last time you were in a community that held forth these qualities as a basic tenet of what they embody?”

The absence of a vetting process. Inclusiveness to all in a community. Never has this idea been more attractive and challenging to one’s sense of morality and hubris.

I invite you to have the following conversation internally and with others.

Do you want to join a community that validates its discernment in benevolence?

Or would you feel entitlement and solace within yourself by joining a community that embraces elitism?

Which speaks to you?

Author(s)

  • Lisa Krohn

    Consultant: Personal Assistant/Personal Organizer/Writer

    Lisa is devoted to organizing and producing clarity in people's lives. She has a proven track record of success in achieving client goals with legendary entrepreneurs, thought leaders, individuals, couples, executives, high-net-worth families, and people from all walks of life. A dedicated and discreet professional known for demonstrating integrity and grace under pressure. Lisa is a creative problem solver, a detail-oriented and imaginative project manager who can establish order from chaos.   Lisa is a leading personal assistant and personal organizer. She brings unique experience as a Hollywood archivist, event planner, manager of a preeminent European antiquities gallery, and executive/personal assistant to entertainment executives and entrepreneurs on both coasts.   Recently, Lisa has worked as a Communications Outreach Strategist for the nonprofit PhotoStart.org., with Brando Crespi, an internationally acclaimed environmental strategist, BiographyPARTNER.com., General Peter B. Zwack, Co-Founder Frequencymind.com and former Google Entrepreneur in Residence Vivian Rosenthal, Buddhist scholar Robert A.F. Thurman, visionary Byron Katie, renowned spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson, Wikipedia founder Jimmy Wales, and Jim Lahey of the Sullivan Street Bakery.   She has also served as the personal executive assistant to Martha Stewart, Peter Guber, Steve Tisch, Wendy Finerman, Dawn Steel, Don Simpson, and Jerry Bruckheimer, and the general counsel of USA Networks.   Lisa spent four years creating and producing Columbia Pictures' Archival Department   The Wall Street Journal published a feature profile on Lisa, focusing on her personal organizing business. Quest magazine has recognized her as one of NYC's premier personal organizers.   Back east, Lisa was Manager of Phoenix Ancient Art and co-produced Harry Evans' celebrated book party events at Random House.   Lisa has cultivated special project relationships with prestigious five-star hotel concierges.   She is a contributing writer at https://community.thriveglobal.com/authors/lisa-krohn/.   Contact: Lisa Krohn +1.917.856.1234 [email protected] www.lisakrohnllc.com   Winter 2022