It’s amazing how time speeds up or slows down based on your happiness, stress, or schedule. While I decided to focus on self-care before the first of the year, it has been easier to bring what I wanted to life because I establish expectations, created a community of likeminded individuals, and evaluated my resistance to change.
  
Develop Expectations Instead of Aspirations

There is a big difference between creating aspirations and having expectations. When you aspire for something, it seems far-off and a bit unreachable. On the contrary, with expectations, you are expecting what you want actually to be true. As such, I was able to workout and workout every single day because I set expectations of doing so. As such, both seemed like a part of my day every day.

Create a Community

I really enjoyed convening with like-minded people in a comfortable, supportive environment. As such, because I decided to put high-frequency living and self-care at the top of my manifestations, I decided to create the community that I needed. I decided to host a recurring gathering at my home that focuses on a high-frequency discussion. I reached out to a group of likeminded people, and 100% said they were interested, and 80% attended. Creating or participating in a community works with almost every kind of goal or resolution. When I wanted to obtain straight A’s in college, I also created a group that had the same mission. We created an environment that would ensure that we all had the highest chance of achieving this goal.

Evaluate Resistance

The last technique that I used to bring my goal of self-care to life is by intentionally evaluating my resistance to change. For example, I know in my heart and based on data, that when I take yoga at 6 am, I’m happy and magnetic for the entire day. But, when I wake up at 5 am, I usually want to stay in bed. So, I decided to ask myself if I genuinely thought that going to the class was better for me, or if staying in bed was better for me. By doing this, I ended up going yoga 90% of the time, while staying in bed was only the answer if I didn’t feel well or have enough sleep. Resistance to change is often the biggest reason that we cannot reach our goals.


Author(s)

  • Roshawnna Novellus

    Founder & CEO

    EnrichHER

    Dr. Roshawnna Novellus is the Founder and CEO of EnrichHER, a proven and trusted FinTech lending platform that makes it easy for retail and institutional funders to deploy capital to pre-qualified revenue-generating businesses led by women and people of color. A nationally recognized financial inclusion advocate and champion of mindfulness, Dr. Novellus is dedicated to deploying working capital to women and people of color to help them grow their businesses. She holds a Ph.D. in Systems Engineering with a Minor in Finance, a Masters of Science in Information Technology emphasizing Information System Engineering, a Bachelor of Arts in Business Management Economics, and a Bachelor of Science in Computer Engineering – achieving Summa Cum Laude in each. A native of San Diego, Roshawnna is one of the few Black women ever to have raised over $1M in venture capital. She is a Roddenberry Foundation Fellow and served on the Commission on Women for the City of Atlanta from 2016 to 2018. Additional honors include the "Excellence in Sister-Nomic$ Award" from the National Coalition of 100 Black Women; Atlanta Business Chronicle's "2016 Women Who Mean Business;" Georgia Trend's 2017 "40 Under 40;" Washington Life's "25 Innovators & Disruptors in Tech;" a LinkedIn Top Voice in Technology; and winner of the FinTech South Innovation Challenge. Dr. Novellus has appeared in Bloomberg, Fortune, Fox Business, Yahoo! Finance, and Black Enterprise and has been featured in national television campaigns for her advocacy work in partnership with Logitech, Mastercard, and Hennessy.