It is obvious that depending on our location, distance and view we see things differently. Understanding how perspective on topics and life outlooks can create differences and can lead to conflict, stress and challenge is less obvious. We might know this, but perspective can be a hard topic to self-reflect on.

Due to the fact that we get attached and convicted about the perspective that we hold, it can be perplexing how to change our perspective when we really do not want to. We feel that we have grown to see the perspective we have molded by experiences and lessons from parents, teachers and wise elders gone before us. We can feel convicted in the perspective we hold and many of these “lenses” in which we see life are very subconscious and inbred into our thinking. We have loyalty, conviction and even “rightness” about the perspectives we hold. This one way of thinking causes challenges and impasses as we seek to co-exist with others in the world. Another thing about perspective is it is easy to become mood and ego-driven in our perspective. It becomes a battle because it is about us being right or simply paralyzed in our ability to see another answer.

While in life there are some “absolutes”, those are external to our “thinking” and more defined by nature around us. For the most part, much of the way we think is based on our perspective, experience, culture and sometimes just the way our mind perceives things (i.e. a picture). As generations, seasons, and cultures change and evolve thinking changes.

Consider …..

  • how you thought about things as a child versus how you see them as an adult.
  • how you operated in the culture of your parents’ home versus how you operate in your own home.
  • different areas of the world and how they see or act.
  • how you view things when you are in a good mood versus a bad mood.
  • how you view things when you feel a person likes you versus when you feel a person is trying to take advantage of you.
  • a perspective in the moment versus hindsight.
  • a perspective when everything is going well versus when everything seems to be going wrong.
  • a perspective when just having a new baby versus when someone has just died.
  • a perspective when you feel you don’t have enough versus when people just lost everything in a natural disaster.
  • the black space versus the white space.

The example is given about how children are able to be more open to learning and discovery because their minds are like their bodies – flexible and open. As we age, if we do not keep stretching and keeping ourselves flexible we grow more rigid and inflexible and soon touching our toes requires work and even pain. In the same way, a mind that has not practiced staying open and agile becomes inflexible.

The opportunity for all of us is to stay open and “flexible” in our thinking so we can see different perspectives and then make the best choice. If you only see ONE way to do things, you only have one choice. If you can see five ways to do things, you can pick which way you like best, make space for others to do it differently or enjoy a variety of approaches to keep things fresh!

Benefits of staying flexible:

  1. less stress when things change
  2. see more options/solutions
  3. able to adjust to things faster
  4. more creative and able to be innovative
  5. able to empower others and not worry when they do things differently

Challenge if we are not flexible:

  1. increased stress when the world operates outside our one way
  2. easier to break or snap when change is applied
  3. harder to roll with other ways of doing things
  4. easier to feel offended, challenged and shut down when solutions are outside our perspective
  5. harder to accept others who do and think differently than me

Would you like to learn more about how to see the world through a broader lens? Check out this wonderful education film by National Geographic Photographer. See how he learned the difference between good and great … and it was all in the perspective, but FIRST in how HE approached the shot.

Movie: Celebrate what is right with the world.

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  • Christy Geiger

    Executive & Leadership Coach

    Synergy Strategies

    Christy is an seasoned and certified Coach for executives/CXO, leaders, entrepreneurs and top performers with a truly refreshing and unique perspective. Since 2002, she has worked with over 1000 individuals to break through personal and business barriers to perform at their best. She is passionate about learning, challenging the status quo and helping her clients achieve their desired goals. With extensive background in human psychology, personality and strengths, Christy leads each of her clients to better understand themselves, their clients and their team to increase efficiency and productivity. Over the course of her career, Christy has helped her clients customize their approach to implement strategies which maximize personal strengths and styles, and to break through personal barriers and limitations to perform at their highest. With her approach, Christy has helped solopreneurs, business leaders, and CEO’s to grow start-up businesses or expand their organization into multi-million dollar companies. She has helped businesses and non-profits grow, developed leadership teams, and coached CEOs to leverage both their strengths and weaknesses to transform their leadership styles and that of their organizations. Whatever your goal is, Christy expands internal awareness and insight to break through personal barriers guiding individuals to reach new sales, marketing, or team production. Christy brings over 15 years of personal and professional experience to each of her clients. She has developed teams in the corporate world, earned a Master's degree in Psychology, and is certified in the use of the DISC personality system, Guerrilla Marketing approach and Rule the Room Financial system. Founded in her belief each person has God-given strengths and talents, she also works with those in career discovery, transition and advancement to better understand and leverage their gifts and skills to love their work and place in the world. She grew up in California but has lived on the East Coast (North Carolina), and in the Midwest (Minnesota) and now calls Texas (Austin) home with her husband and two children.