Whether you have lost a loved one, or a truth has been revealed, the loss in your heart is raw. The continuity that you believed in, even if only in your mind, is now shattered and you are back to re identifying what is meaningful and what is not. What is true and what is a facade. Your bearings are weak, and your constitution may be tattered. Where to from here?

In my own personal journey through heartbreak, I have uncovered one truism that has guided the nursing of my own heart. Love. Self love and love of others. Love can be altruistic and it can be for survival. For me it was the latter. And if nothing more, it can prove the same for you in your darkest moments of confusion, instability, and heartbreak.

We all have had our moments of pessimistic perspective. Moments of depressive thinking, and derogatory self talk. Some people get stuck there and have subsequent mental illness diagnosis’s (or not) and temporarily numb the void with drugs, alcohol and absenteeism in their lives. The truth is that love can cure these moments almost instantly. Afterall,

So in moments of defeat or despair, remember this, that love can envelop you in its grace, can open your heart to its grandeur and most importantly, can bring the peace of hope and possibility back to your life.

Here are three tangible ways to feel love wash over you:

1). Imagine the rays of the sun fill your heart with energy. Imagine that energy has the power to eradicate the pain and transmute it into awareness of your life force. Here is a guided meditation:

2). Pray and ask your angles, guides and the Lord to show you how to love yourself and others and listen and watch the prodings for the answer. Feel your intuition guide you.

3). Engage in sublime artistic and passionate activities that unleash the love force within you. So whether it be painting, dancing or writing, do it, and when you are doing so, feel the love that resides within you, take hold of your life healing your pain and transmuting it, with grace, into love.

Whatever way you deal with heartache never lose sight of the lesson that needed to be learned, and the miracle of opportunity in learning it. For in our journeys we face many challenges and through loss of delusions, and lies, we are able to deepen our connection to that which always is. That which is the core of our being. Love.