New relationships are thrilling and full of passion. Meeting someone new and getting to know them, both emotionally and intimately, is almost like an adventure. Together, you try new things and work to figure out life together. It’s fun and exciting, and you never know what’s around the corner. 

Once you’ve been with one person for a while, though, you might begin to miss the excitement of new experiences with them. You may have fallen into a pattern of comfortable, but predictable, intimacy and feel as though you’re just coexisting with your partner. Fortunately, there are ways to bring the thrill and excitement back to your relationship!

Send a Love Note and Flowers

When you first started pursuing your partner, I’m sure you made sweet attempts to woo them and show them how much you care. Did you stop doing those things once a relationship was firmly established? One of the best ways to liven up a stale relationship is to woo your partner all over again. By writing them little love notes or sending them flowers, you’re effectively demonstrating your continuous love and reigniting the intimacy you shared at the beginning of your relationship.

Communicate Your Desires

In long relationships, we often find ourselves thinking we know exactly what our partner likes and wants from us sexually or intimately. However, assumptions like these block the opportunity for you and your partner to explore new things together. What’s more, assuming or expecting your partner to know that you want something different is also unhelpful. Don’t be afraid to communicate what you want. Your partner will respond in kind and be happy to please you.

Plan a Date Night

A lot of couples end up putting their marriage on the back burner once they start having children. After all, raising a kid is hard work and takes a ton of time! But prioritizing your marriage is essential to keeping up the passion and excitement. Your partner should never feel like their second to your children! Schedule a few dates each month, hire a babysitter, and take the time to reconnect and rekindle the romance with your spouse. 

Have Fun With Foreplay

Half the fun of intimacy between new couples is getting the chance to explore one another’s bodies. The honeymoon phase of relationships is full of kissing and canoodling, yet as the romance ages, we begin to forget about foreplay and jump straight to sex. By slowing down and returning to the basics—kissing, touching, and fooling around—you can infuse meaning and excitement back into sex. Intimacy shouldn’t be a routine!

Relationships get stale. It’s just a fact of life! Yet too many people are under the assumption that a relationship gone stale is one that’s gone bad. There are countless ways to liven up your relationship for more passion and intimacy, as well as a deeper emotional connection. With that said, it’s also important to accept the fact that relationships change and adapt with age and time. If you change your perspective on the situation, and make a concerted effort, your relationship may be even better than it was when it was new. 

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