As we enter the final phase of the holiday season, you might find yourself overwhelmed by the pressures of family gatherings, gift-giving, and hosting the perfect party. The stress can be compounded by the pervasive consumerism and commercialization that often overshadow the season’s true meaning: peace.
On top of that, this year’s election outcome may still be lingering in your mind. Politics can add another layer of tension, especially if your candidate lost and emotions are still running high and opinions clashing. Whether you’re pleased or disappointed with the results, now is the time to step back and refocus on what truly matters.
But here’s the good news: you can make a change. By shifting your perspective and focus, you can make choices that ensure a calmer, more meaningful holiday season for yourself and those closest to you.
Here’s how:
1. Re-frame political tension.
The holidays are a time to connect with loved ones, but political differences can make gatherings challenging. If conversations about the recent election arise, aim for understanding instead of argument. Listen to differing opinions without jumping to debate, and remind yourself that relationships are more important than winning an ideological battle. If necessary, steer discussions toward neutral topics or suggest setting politics aside altogether. This can help everyone focus on the season’s spirit of unity and goodwill.
2. Reject materialism.
Let go of the idea that material gifts define the holidays. Expensive presents and extravagance don’t guarantee happiness or connection—they’re largely fueled by marketing from Hallmark and Hollywood. Instead, focus on what the holidays are truly about: love, gratitude, and time with friends and family.
3. Give the gift of experience.
The most memorable gifts are experiences, not material items. Unlike the fleeting excitement of a new gadget or sweater, experiences create lasting memories. Consider gifting something that will have lasting effects: tickets to a show, a cooking class, or a day trip to somewhere special.
4. Be creative—and practical—with gifts.
If money is tight or you’re feeling uninspired, step away from the chaos of last-minute shopping. Instead, set an example by giving thoughtful, personal gifts that reflect your values. Handmade cards, homemade treats, or customized “gift certificates” can be wonderful alternatives. Offer to mow your parents’ lawn in the spring, babysit for a friend, or organize a donation to a charity in lieu of office grab bags. These ideas are not only budget-friendly but also meaningful.
5. Take control of your schedule.
Remember, you have the power to choose how you spend your time. Ask yourself: Do I really need to attend every party, or am I saying “yes” out of guilt or obligation? Learn to say “no” to activities that don’t align with your priorities and “yes” to the things that truly matter. Setting boundaries will reduce stress and allow you to focus on what brings you joy.
6. Re-frame negativity.
It’s easy to slip into a “Scrooge” mindset and dismiss the holidays as stressful or pointless. But could there be something meaningful to take away from the season? By shifting your perspective and focusing on small positives, you can transform your experience.
Finally, don’t forget the essentials of stress management: eat well (and in moderation), stay active, get enough rest, and remain flexible with your plans.
By embracing these strategies, you can move beyond the frenzy and find joy in the moments that truly matter.