How to Overcome Unhappiness
Every single thing in the Universe is vibrating at a particular frequency. Your thoughts and feelings, including everything in your subconscious, are transmitting a particular vibration out into the Universe, and those vibrations shape the life you are living. This is simply how the Universe works. The good news is that once you understand how the Universe works, you have the power to get the Universe to work for you! If you’re feeling stuck, unfulfilled, or dissatisfied with your life, the answer lies in raising your personal vibration to that perfect pitch where your intentions and desires resonate with the intentions and desires of the Universe.
The Creation Frequency
I call this the Creation Frequency. The Creation Frequency is that sweet spot where you are “in tune” with life. When you tap into this frequency, you reclaim the creative power that is your birthright. You will find yourself able to work in partnership with the Universe to manifest the life of your dreams.
If everything in the Universe is energy, then the “things” we want are less like solid objects and more like currents of energy that we need to learn how to redirect toward ourselves. How do we direct energy? We create intention. And we create intention through the vibrations of our desires and our thoughts. What we focus on becomes our reality. As the saying goes, where attention goes, energy flows. As Prentice Mulford, a contemporary of Emerson, wrote, our thoughts are “the unseen magnet, ever attracting its correspondence in things seen and tangible.”
The Law Of Attraction
This principle is commonly known today as “the law of attraction,” but it’s been around for hundreds if not thousands of years. From early sages like the Buddha and Lao Tzu to contemporary self-help books and movies like The Secret, it’s been a perennial teaching that has captivated the human imagination. Even the Bible tells us, “What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them” (Mark 11:24).
The sentiment was echoed centuries later in less religious terms by motivational pioneers like Ernest Holmes, author of The Science of Mind, and Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, who wrote, “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Many other great teachers and thinkers followed in their footsteps. One of my favorite contemporary systems is A Course in Miracles. My friend Jack Canfield, creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, states the principle simply and unequivocally: “The Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on is what you will attract into your life.”
Given the enduring popularity of this idea, you’d think we’d all be happily living idyllic lives, and there’d be no need for yet another book on how to become a creator. The secret is out. Search for “law of attraction” on Google and you will find hundreds of thousands of websites, books, courses, and so on with slogans like the following:
“Change your mind, change your life.”
“Thoughts become things.”
“You are what you believe yourself to be.”
“Once you make a decision, the Universe conspires to make it happen.”
“What you put out is what you get back.”
I’d agree with most of these sentiments, at least in principle. But, clearly, it’s not that simple.
Too many of us—even those who’ve read all the self-help books, been to the seminars, and practiced the techniques—are still feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled. Every day, I meet people, young and old, with that familiar look of longing in their eyes. Sometimes it’s burning bright, undimmed by life’s challenges. Other times it’s barely perceptible, almost extinguished by disappointment and despair. Very few people I meet seem to be truly happy and fulfilled in their lives.
According to experts, that’s not surprising. Polls consistently show that the majority of us do not feel happy or satisfied with our lives. The most recent Harris Poll Happiness Index found that less than one-third of Americans report being “very happy”—a number that has been declining since the survey began in 2008.
Despite our ever-increasing connectedness via the Internet, many of us paradoxically feel more isolated than we’ve ever been, with a recent survey finding that 35 percent of Americans over forty-five are “chronically lonely.” And the rate of antidepressant use has skyrocketed over the past couple of decades, with government statisticians saying that one in every ten American teens or adults takes an antidepressant, and one in four women in their forties and fifties.
Clearly, the path to happiness is not as simple as thinking a few more positive thoughts. In fact, I think we need to change our focus from seeking “happiness” to seeking fulfillment or contentment. These are deeper states of alignment and congruency, not just passing feelings.