Oh, no! How did I get into this? How did this happen? My life was ticking along just fine – or maybe not all that fine, but it wasn’t like this! It’s a disaster!

Does this sound familiar? I’m sure we’ve all been there. Perhaps that’s where you are right now. And if you are, the good news is that if you got into it, you can get out of it.

Okay, it’s true, there may be some aspects of your situation that you cannot change. If, for example, you’re sitting in a car that you just wrapped around an enormous tree a moment ago, you can’t rewind about ten seconds and take it all back. After all, life isn’t like one big shoelace that you can just undo whenever you want. So…perhaps you’ve made some choices that have got you all tied up in knots and you don’t know where to begin to fix it.

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First of all, just for a moment, forget where you are. Forget the fact that you’re seriously in the soup, and look ahead. Never mind what’s wrong just now; what do you want to be “right”? Come on, push aside all the bits that are upsetting, distressing, disturbing, or fill-in-the-blank. Yes, you CAN. YOU are in control of your thoughts. YOU get to choose what goes on in your head. Your life or the situation may feel out of control at the moment but it’s temporary. The only constant is change, so hold onto that knowledge and begin by changing your thoughts.

Set all your worries to one side for a moment. Forget where you are, and see where you want to be. Just close your eyes and focus on what you want, as if it has already happened. Do NOT think about how you want this or that to stop, because then you’re still focusing on what you DON’T want.

For example, if you’re rushing to get to an important appointment and you’re worried that you’re going to be late, don’t be thinking “I don’t want to be late” because then you’re still focusing on being late and you’re more likely to trip yourself up with little things that do, in fact, delay you to the point of being late. Instead, focus on everything going smoothly so that you arrive on time.

This is an extremely important difference and it is vital to your ending up where you want to be as quickly as possible. The Law of Attraction is at work all the time, whether you’re thinking about it or not. You’re a bioelectromagnetic being – with emphasis on “magnetic.” So if you focus on what you don’t want, you’ll only attract more of it.

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Once you’ve got the hang of it, it becomes quite simple to flip negative thoughts into positive ones. Every time you think of what’s wrong, change that feeling, that thought, that image into the vision of what you want and hold onto it for a few moments. Not only will it lift your spirits, it will also keep you focused, feeling positive and moving forward.

As for more immediate help with “how to get out of this,” find one thing you can do today to take a step toward the way out. Perhaps you’ve been so distracted by the challenge(s), your house is a bit of a disaster or there’s a ton of filing or unopened mail waiting for you. Pick just one thing you think you can do today and do it. Make a dent in that mountain of laundry. Tidy up one room. Brush your hair. Just do one thing that begins to move you toward where you want to be. It doesn’t have to be huge.

Do at least one of those ‘somethings’ every day. If you can do more than one, go for it. That’s great! Every one of them will just make you feel better and give you energy. And you know why? Because you’ll be taking control of your life again.

The more you feel like you’re in the driver’s seat, the more you’ll look through the windscreen and see that vision for your future. Each time you see it, it’s not going to seem so far off in the distance. Each time you see it, that vision will become a little clearer. And that will only make it easier for you to know exactly which roads to take and where you need to turn in order to get there.

You might well be in a big mess. But you can unwrap the car from that massive tree trunk. You can get the front end repaired or rebuilt. The tree will heal – and so will you.

Yeah, you got yourself into this. But you can put yourself back behind the wheel and get out of it, too – one mile at a time.

Just see where you want to be. Then hold that vision…


  • Liberty Forrest

    Mindset Mastery/Law of Attraction Coach, Inspiring Speaker, Award-Winning Author

    Mindset Mastery

    Since the mid-‘90s, Mindset Mastery and Law of Attraction Coach, Liberty Forrest, has been helping clients unlock the power of their minds to achieve greater personal and professional success. With a background in social work and hypnosis and working in the healing/counselling industry, Liberty works with clients across the globe to help them break old patterns of self-sabotaging thoughts, and bring mindset, energy and focus into alignment to create the life of their dreams.

    For five years, Liberty appeared as a frequent guest on BBC Radio where she assisted callers with a variety of personal concerns.

    She is an award-winning author, a columnist, and an inspiring speaker. She is a contributor on Huffington Post, LoveFraud, and Thrive Global, as well as a senior contributor on SportsEdTV. She has written articles for more than 50 publications around the world. She has also written several books that cover a range of personal development topics, and has been a guest on approximately 100 radio shows, podcasts, and summits.