Getting Real In Your Skin

It took getting to 50 to stop me fooling around. Years of self-doubt. Can I do it? Do I have the brains? Do I have the skills? Am I too old? Was I too young to get married? Do I really have anything worthy to say? Was it my failing looks? The questions we ask ourselves sometimes stop us before we even get started.

Allan Pease wrote a book called “Questions Are The Answers” and I changed my questions. Questions that empowered and got me moving and not defeatist ones that stop me in my tracks.

How can I improve my fitness? What do I need to do differently so I can run faster? What skills do I need to master to write a book or many books? How do I speak to a crowd of 10, 50, 100 or even thousands? How can I develop a better relationship with my son? What can I do to make my relationship with my God personal and not religious ?

What are the ways I can be a better friend? How can I make a difference in my community? How much of the world do I want to see? How can I be a better wife? How can I earn more money? What book do I need to read or what course do I have to attend to learn a new skill? How will I be remembered when I pass on?

I have seen friends die in the last couple of years. Such is life. The stick seems to be a better motivator than the carrot. Grievances like death and divorce can be a wake-up call. Ups and downs are inevitable. Don’ wait for a downer for the tough questions to be asked. We talk about the tombstone with the dates of birth and death. What was fitted into those years? Did I really live?

As I approach halftime in life, I can visualize a thrilling future. This has been made exciting because of where I have been, how far I have come and how much more I will be experiencing; alive in every pore.


  • Freda Liu

    Bring Your Mojo Back

    Freda Liu is a Producer/Presenter for the Enterprise show which airs on BFM (, Mondays to Fridays. It caters to SMEs and managers covering the tools for organizations to build their business. Freda has conducted over 5000 interviews and some prominent names include Martin Cooper (inventor of the mobile phone), Ralph Baer (inventor of video games), author Stephen Covey, motivational speaker Nick Vijucic, former GE CEO Jack Welch, gymnast Nadia Comaneci (Perfect 10), the Duke of York HRH Prince Andrew to Wikileaks. An award-winning journalist, she has authored five books; "PR Yourself - Red Lipstick & Amazing Shoes" and “Shake & Spear Your Business: The Romeo & Juliet Way,” "Everybody Loves Ray," "Bursting Fixed Mindsets" and the soon-to-be-launched "In Your Skin."