In September 2008, I sat glued to the television watching Lehman Brothers’ employees carrying their cardboard boxes from their offices. One of my best friends was working in Bear Stearns bank when it had failed and so the reality of the unfolding economic crisis felt very close to home. I felt on edge and full of dread as the global economy fell apart.

Last month, when coronavirus arrived on our island, that feeling of dread returned. This time, I wasn’t glued to the television. Instead, I was in a loop of checking my phone Twitter, Google, and news websites for updates and WhatsApp, my Gmail, my work email, my SMS for communications from my friends. I had a knot of anxiety in my stomach and for a few days, woke up with a sinking feeling, weighed down by the scale of the global public health crisis.

But something was different. This time around, I responded differently to my distress. Instead of berating myself for not being able to just deal with it, I placed a hand on my stomach and acknowledged that yes this was anxiety, many people were likely feeling similarly and then I offered myself some soothing words of comfort. In short, a took a self-compassion break. In recent years I have read a lot and done some training in mindfulness and mindful self-compassion. While I have yet to successfully establish a regular formal sitting mindfulness practice, learning about self-compassion has been truly transformative. Christopher Germer and Kristin Neff are the leading scholars in self-compassion which they describe as comprising three elements: mindfulness, common humanity and self-kindness. Firstly, we learn to recognise our own suffering without exaggerating or minimising it (mindfulness). Then we remind ourselves that we are not alone or weak or flawed for feeling pain, worry, anger or sadness (common humanity). Lastly, we offer ourselves compassion through physical soothing gestures or comforting words (self-kindness). In essence, as Karen Bluth describes in her teen adaptation of the mindful self—compassion programme, it is learning to make friends with ourselves.

And so, by allowing the feelings of anxiety to be there without the harsh companion of my inner critic, the persistent knot of anxiety passed. Fresh waves of it still come of course and in those moments I try to repeat again (and again) the three-step self-compassion break. I’ve also cried and been cranky with my loved ones more than once these past few weeks, as they will surely attest. In those moments too I try to be compassionate to myself (and afterwards apologetic to my family!).

When the waves of anxiety come, another strategy I use is to notice the hallmark “what if” thinking spiral and replace with “what is”. Anxiety can be understood as the overestimation that something terrible is going to happen, and the underestimation of one’s ability to cope. Some “what ifs” I’ve noticed include “what if my parents become unwell when none of us are able to be with them?”, “what if our son gets COVID-19 and we can’t stay with him in hospital?”, “what if my brother (a frontline medic) gets sick”, “what if my (self-employed) husband’s business goes under?”. Each time I try to gently come back to “what is”, what I know to be true, for now. Grounding techniques can be also be helpful to break the rapid spiral of catastrophic thinking and physical unease that typify anxiety. Willem Kuyken and Hazel Harrison have written specifically about the importance of grounding ourselves in the midst of COVID-19.

Anxiety and irritability aside, I’m struck by the tiredness I am feeling. On the face of it, I am not as busy as I was pre-COVID-19 and luckily I am sleeping well so that doesn’t explain it. But I’ve been reminded of the role that habit and routine play in making some daily processes and activities automatic, thereby requiring little conscious thought or mental effort. Think for example about your usual morning routine. It typically has a sequence and flow that enables you to shower, dress, eat and get out of the house in a relatively time and energy efficient manner. But now, with routines turned upside down, a lot of mental energy is consumed by previously taken for granted activities. My family and I have figured out a daily schedule now and that is definitely helping.

With energy levels depleted by worry and fatigue, I am trying to pay more attention to self-care. I have broken out the “good” shower gel and body lotion, previously unopened gifts that I was saving, for what I do not know. Their time is now! And although I don’t naturally enjoy exercise, I am trying to make myself go out for a walk every day, viewing it not as a chore but as a daily pleasure. I’m not pushing myself to walk at a certain pace. Instead, I choose an engaging podcast (usually Desert Island Discs) and set out, deliberately saying hello to those I meet, and now feeling increasingly grateful that I have the freedom and health to be able to walk. I’m also mindful of the enormous benefits of even small amounts of physical activity for mental health.

Collectively, these practices are helping me keep myself together, and when I do fall apart, to gather myself back up again. And again. And again.


  • Dr. Eithne Hunt

    Occupational Therapist & College Lecturer

    University College Cork

    Dr. Eithne Hunt is an Irish State registered occupational therapist who has clinical, research and teaching expertise in the area of young people's health. Eithne has 23 years' experience of working directly with young people in health and education sectors. She is a multi award-winning university lecturer at the Department of Occupational Science and Occupational Therapy, University College Cork, Ireland where she has developed innovative curricula on everyday activities and health. She is trained to deliver the Mindfulness in Schools Project interventions and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction for Teens [MBSR-T]. Eithne’s research is underpinned by population health, positive youth development, ecological and occupational perspectives of health; positive psychology and developmental neuroscience. Her current teaching and research interests are in applying a public health model of occupational therapy in adolescent mental health, with particular interest in universal health promotion and prevention occupation-based lifestyle interventions for adolescents in school and college. She also works as academic advisor to University College Cork's Graduate Attributes Programme.