If you are like me at all, then it’s pretty easy to know when you’re off track. Like, you make a million ‘to-do’ lists in your head or on paper, yet nothing seems to be getting done in the ways you intended them. Some of the side effects of being off track could show their ugly faces with depression, anxiety, lack of purpose, and lots of confusion. Why is this? Why are you experiencing these feelings? In addition, these feelings can show up in all areas of our life, whether we’re attempting to manage our diets, our exercise habits, our work habits, our sleeping habits, our relationship habits, or any other aspects of our existence.

What is it that makes us get off track?

The answer is pretty simple when you look inside of yourself and take responsibility for your life and stop looking outside at the people or factors of your life. It’s typically you. You know the saying “You’re your own worst enemy?” Well, I know this is always the case with me. And the one thing that snaps me out of it, and what I feel like the number one factor in creating lasting positive habits is KNOWING MY WORTH.

In order to create changes that positively impact you and your life on a daily basis is to know that you deserve an incredibly happy, peaceful, joyful, and abundant life. So often we live our lives in a state of lack. In Brene’ Brown’s “Daring Greatly,” she speaks in depth about scarcity, and how usually, the first thing we think about in the morning is that we didn’t get enough sleep, and then it goes from there. Not enough time, not thin enough, not smart enough, not good enough and the list could go on and on. Well, I’m here to tell you that thinking thoughts that sabotage us or tear us down is a whole lotta BS which mainly lives just in our heads, and we must evict those tenants of thinking.

You must know that not only are you enough, you are MORE than enough. You are a creative, beautiful soul who is here to give love and receive love. Everything else will fall into place. And if there are people in your life who want to sidetrack you in saying there isn’t power in positive thinking, prepare to take a big step away from them.

One of the positive habits I’ve created in my life over the past year is a meditation practice, which has changed ALL areas of my life. I can’t express enough the power, the ideas, the confidence, the peace, and the transformation my life has had since I’ve been regularly practicing getting in touch with my Inner Being. My self-talk has changed dramatically. My energy has changed dramatically. My choices have changed because I now know the power I have is in my thoughts. The power is inside ME. I can promise you that once you start loving yourself, everything in your life falls into perspective. And your daily habits begin to SERVE you, rather than deter you.

Yes, I fall off track. This past week was the holiday, and there were a couple of days I missed because I with friends, and I had some drinks, and I didn’t really put myself first in the ways I normally do. I felt that. So, once I got this little feeling of anxiety, I knew exactly what it was from, and I immediately meditated and got back on track almost instantly. It caused me to journal, make a list, and set some new intentions that I’ve already begun to incorporate into my life to make ME better. Not to prove anything to anyone else. I just want to be better than I was yesterday. And when you have that mindset and that attitude, and not beat yourself up for getting off track in the first place, you can indeed, move the mountains in your life.

Three things you can do today to create lasting habits:

1. Spend 20 minutes alone, put on some soft music and just breathe. 

During this time, do some “I AM” mantras. Even if you don’t believe them in this moment, say them. Fake it till you make it. Here are a few to get you started.

I am creative.

I am beautiful.

I am inspiration.

I am enough.

I am attracting new and perfect experiences into my life.

I am worthy of all the things I want for my life.

2. Make a list of the things you want to begin incorporating into your life or the habits you’d like to start. 

If you want to lose weight, I highly suggest picking up a book to help educate you on your body. One book suggestion in this area is Lyn-Genet Recitas’, “The Metabolism Plan.” If you want to work out, get Beachbody On Demand, so you can do it in the comfort of your own home and it costs way less than a gym membership. If you want to begin meditating, download the free Insight Timer app for your smartphone. But you must know where you like to see yourself in the next month. And then finally….

3. Start SOMEWHERE. It doesn’t matter where, just START.

One day at a time, you can begin to do little things to improve your state of mind. 

Once you know your true worth, you realize you have little time for things that bring you down, including your own self-sabotage. 


  • Lindsay Manfredi

    Lover, Rocker, Speaker, Author, Mother, Road Warrior

    Lindsay Manfredi is a renaissance woman who has pushed creative and spiritual boundaries throughout her life. Manfredi is the bassist for two-time gold album and platinum record selling, alternative rock band, COLD, and published her first memoir/personal development book entitled Unfuckwithable: A Guide to Inspired Badassery, in June 2020 through Rose Gold Publishing. Manfredi previously rocked the Indianapolis social media and marketing scene for ten years with her company Linzstar Inc, featured prominently in speaking engagements from Blog Indiana to Bloomington's The Combine. Manfredi's online writing has been published in various media outlets. Manfredi also co-founded Girls Rock! Indianapolis, a nonprofit rock n' roll summer camp for girls ages 8-16 and is a two-time TEDx speaker, spreading her experiences and encouragement to every community she is a part of. Indianapolis Monthly Magazine named Manfredi, a top up-and-coming artist in 2013. As a singer/songwriter, Manfredi is a frequent collaborator with Geno Lenardo (Filter, Chevelle) and has original music featured on the Fitfluential Radio Podcast.  She keeps her toe in the marketing world through particular pop-up events, including a band-dedicated luxury candle collection in Los Angeles, CA. She has music partnerships with Ernie Ball, Jim Dunlop, and has two signature series basses through Diamond Guitars. Manfredi currently resides in Los Angeles.