What’s Holding you Back? Let’s Talk About Fear

What keeps you up at night?

Is it your desire to be something your not? To try something you haven’t before?

Or is it your big dreams and goals that you think are impossible?

These are thoughts that creep into our minds late at night. At work when we’re dozing off in boredom. As we’re on our daily morning commute.

But why don’t we act on these dreams and desires?

FEAR

We’re afraid of the unknown, change and failure. We’re afraid of what our family, coworkers, employers and society will think. Of what it would mean for our careers, family life, relationships. We’re afraid of the ‘what if’s‘ and the risks. We see horrible things in the media and write off entire countries and cities, just like that. We’re afraid of the work and effort that goes into making those dreams a reality. We’re afraid of going new places, meeting new people and trying new things.

The biggest thing we’re afraid of though, is the unknown. It terrifies us. Walks us back from the edge, sits us down and assures us settling is the safer bet.

But settling hasn’t gotten us where we are now. The women who came before us didn’t choose to settle. They didn’t sit down and wait for change to happen. They were the change. Elizabeth Cady Staton, Elanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, they all stood up and fought for more.

And now it’s each and every one of our chances to shape history and create a future that we want to be a part of. To leap before we’re ready. To dive wholeheartedly into things that inspire, shape and change us while open our eyes.

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Let’s get something straight; fear is a made-up notion.

Once you wrap your head around this, you realize you can change it. Because fear lives in the future. And passion is stronger than fear. If you want something bad enough – no matter how much it scares you – you will go get it.

You need to understand that on the other side of that fear is your freedom. So get comfortable being uncomfortable. Get comfortable with the unknown.

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You can either spend your whole life saying “what if’s” and making excuses, or you can go ahead and actually do it. And once you do it opens a world of possibilities.

Once you stop letting fear control you, you control your life and create it how you want. You can create a life that meets all your needs and wants.

That’s our mission at Behere, to help women create lives they truly love. And we’re actually helping women do this (how cool is that?!), through living in amazing cities around the world, for a month at a time.

The value, knowledge and experience you gain from pushing yourself out your comfort zone and living in new cities is indescribable. You no longer have to settle for staying in the same town or city you grew up in. Or falling into the same, mundane daily routine that no longer excites or serves you.

We do know how exciting, but also frightening and overwhelming the idea of living in a new city is. Even once you work past all your fears and decide to take the leap, there’s a lot to be done.

We’ve been there, we get it. That’s why we started Behere, to help women feel confident in their new spaces and routine, to thrive in a new city.

So that fear you’re feeling right now – about the idea of actually doing this. About all the stuff that hasn’t happened yet.

Yeah, that fear.

Time to kick it to the curb. Because we know the decision to start living how you want, is the best decision you’ll ever make.

Originally published on GoBeHere.

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