When I think about all the struggles I went through in life, most of it came from my negative beliefs. When I got stuck; it wasn’t because someone else was holding me back. The truth was I couldn’t move forward until I got out of my way.

We all have triggers in our life that can serve to remind us of our fears and failures. These emotional triggers are the most powerful forces inside us.

We can choose to stuff everything back inside and not deal with the emotions that surface from past challenges. Or, we can choose to deal with the knots in our stomachs that keep us awake at night.

Whatever we do, we can’t keep the circle going. It will only surface again and again and again. I kept my circle going for years.

Some will medicate themselves to numb the feelings. My medication was a mixture of work and food. There was too much pain from the past, and I was not ready to deal with the circle of challenges and the subsequent work I knew would be involved in knowing and being forced to make decisions.

Sometimes, holding on for a short while can aid us in becoming stronger and making better decisions in the future; but, when we’re unable to learn, or refuse to learn, or when we have learned and still hold on, we become stuck.

Letting Go

Almost everything comes full circle.

Get bored with your past; its over. Forgive yourself for what you think you did or didn’t do, and focus on what you will do starting now. The greatest struggle in my life was the struggle to accept, embrace and love myself.

Learning to love myself has been the hardest and most rewarding thing I’ve ever done to myself. When I started to learn to love myself, imperfections included, wonderful things started to happen.

I let go.

I started looking up.

I moved forward, not back.

I was no longer stuck.

I embraced being perfectly perfect.

I AM happy.


  • Bonnie Milletto

    Motivational Speaker/Emcee, Author, Youth Advocate, Actor/Model, Voice Over Artist

    Drawing from years of experience as an on-camera host and live event hosting, Bonnie is a dynamic personality and highly sought after resource for speaking, event coordination, acting and voice over artistry. Founder/Creator of the Amazing You Empowerment Conference, Bonnie is the published author of 'Dedicated To The Cup, Nine Ways To Improve A Life!' and the most recent guidebook to action for youth and young adults, 'Been There, From Stuck To Unstoppable.' Bonnie is a top media source on personal empowerment, youth challenges and life success. When this best friend, mom, wife and entrepreneur is not on stage or on air, you will find her in her second home - a nature trail exploring a new adventure.