Every so often, something remarkable reveals itself that can change our worldview. 

Few things have quite as much impact as our social networks. And whether we’re a media hog, or just trying to fit in, our social belonging is central to us needing more validation. Our media is reshaping our go-to stories. Its how we define our world and shape the context in which we view what happens to us. Most importantly, it can take control of us and our behavior in any given situation.

Beneath our social media world, we are driven by personal go-to stories that are they’re hardwired into us. Because these stories lie in the unconscious part of the brain, none of us know what our entire go-to story is. We might realize a sentence here or a paragraph there, but, all in all, we’re blind to it.  These buried stories start taking shape when we’re in the womb, and the elements that feed this powerful entity are many: parents, siblings, teachers, media, coaches, friends, the whole shebang. 

Are you lonely and can’t find real love? Why am I alone? I was happy. I want it back. Why does this always happen to me? 

When we’re operating with a bad go-story story at the helm, our world keeps collapsing. We lose sight. We’re exhausted, depleted. To combat this, we might find ourselves uncomfortable and make excuses to leave. We want out! 

Go-to stories can be predominately good, wicked, positive, negative, secure, or just weak. Our go-to stories can fall anywhere from the fantastic to debilitating. They have elements of fiction and nonfiction, depending on how we experienced life. The quality of everyone’s story is uniquely their own. People who feel safe, loved and comfortable expressing their emotions tend to have predominately healthy go-to stories. They believe in themselves. They have healthy boundaries and don’t get overly confused about love and relationships. Life tends to fall into place for these people. 

As 2020 is on the horizon, let’s connect to our core story. Let’s make a promise to be true to ourselves. It’s our time to get savvy and become fully conscious of what we’re doing.  And pay attention to what makes you feel happy—make that apart of your story. 

So try this, find one thing you can do, that you love and keep it simple. That one thing has the power to attract another thing, and before you know it, you’ve tapped into your core story. Watch the doors open. It will just happen, and you’ll start to lay a future that is, at times, unpredictable but magnificent. Don’t be afraid to cope when things that don’t work out. When your inner world is working, all beautiful things happen. You become fearless. 

Make 2020 a magnificent story!


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  • Suzannah Galland

    Life Advisor and Relationship Expert //Breakthrough Intuition

    British born, Suzannah is a Life Advisor and Relationship Expert.  She writes her perspective and insights for Thrive Global, Goop, Harper’s Bazaar, Huffington Post, Medium and KORA Organics.   Designated Vogue's Intuitive Life Coach, she has also been featured in numerous high-profile publications including Forbes, New York Magazine, Refinery 29, Vogue, Los Angeles Magazine, The Telegraph, USA, Today.   She is a contributing author to Goops’s The Sex Issue: Everything You've Always Wanted to Know about Sexuality, Seduction, and Desire. Suzannah has appeared on NBC’s Today Show and as a frequent guidance expert for CW’s America’s Next Top Model: Guys & Girls.