Romantic relationships and love get talked “at” without getting down to the common denominator that means more than anything — your relationship with yourself. 

As the principle goes, “As within, so without.”

You can only attract and maintain a relationship that is consistent with how you think, feel and navigate the world. Whether you’re single and looking or trying to get the most out of your current long-term relationship, it all begins with fixing YOU. 

Below we’ll dive into three things you need to know and do, in order to have all you could ever ask for in your romantic relationships. 

Spend Some Quiet Time With Yourself

If you’re like most people, you have a consistent buzz of anxiety that is triggered by environmental circumstances and your roaming mind. Being unable to see through these distractions causes you to get caught up in them, which leads to being unable to have open and vulnerable conversations and relationships. 

Your first goal should be to come to some understandings within, so you’re not acting unconsciously and attracting things and people that aren’t good for you. 

Meditating is something that will let you get control over your mind, while also uncovering the fears and insecurities that are keeping you from thriving. To really get a lot out of your meditation, consider wearing a blindfold and either wearing earplugs or playing binaural beats on a set of headphones. This form of sensory deprivation allows you to deepen your meditative practice and get a lot of insight. 

Make “Giving” a Top Life Priority

The problem that many people have in relationships is that they’re not willing to give anything. 

When you go into a relationship only thinking about what you need in a partner and what they can do for you, you’re not leaving yourself open to the best that life has for you. Relationships are two-way sacrifices each and every step of the way. 

The Law of Reciprocity guarantees that when you live your life as a selfless gift, you’ll always be in the driver’s seat when it comes to receiving good things in your life. 

Take Care Of Your Mind, Body and Spirit

Prioritize your schedule and keep it sacred. 

When you feel your daily life with things like meditation, exercise, and high-quality foods, you’ll always bring your best self to the world. 

A good relationship consists of two people who are already whole. From there, you do what’s best for the love you’re building, and you’re freely able to give and receive. 

This is something that many people get confused. Instead, they go into relationships broken and look for their partner to fix them. As you might tell, this is a recipe for disaster, though it’s far from a rare occurrence. 

Consider these tips so that you can invite love and romance in your life by taking care of yourself first.