The world is full of things, we see them on billboards, in shop windows, we can find them busting out of every cupboard and closet in some homes. These things are often expensive, and hold our interest for short periods of times. 

As I prepare to get married for the second time, and merge two peoples things into one location. I am astonished and quite frankly a little ashamed at the sheer amount of things we own. Two life times of things, two sets of children, two homes. It is almost obscene.  One of my favorite things about combining our homes is using it as an excuse to get rid of everything, except essentials and to try and live a much more minimalist life. I am not kidding when I say I must have found 8 crystal bowls. This lead me and my fiance to forbidding wedding gifts, which in turn led me to ask other both first time and multiple time newly weds what they really wanted for wedding gifts. 

The answer may surprise you, both first and second time married brides I asked when given the choice of things ( and I gave them some pretty spectacular, vase, art, crystal, silver etc options) chose memories. A hot air balloon ride, a gift card to a special restaurant.  Dan a soon to be groom said his best gift would “be airmiles to travel somewhere special with my lovely fiance Sara”. People loved the idea of receiving date nights, to spend during the first year of marriage, concert tickets, movies and  hotel stays. There are even registries out there now that do nothing but fund, wedding gift cards, honeymoons, or even down payments to a home. 

In a world of overly commercialized wedding ceremonies, overpriced rings and extravagance, it was both refreshing and heartwarming to see, everyone I asked prefered to have memories as gifts. If these engaged couples, continue to make spending time and creating memories with each other a priority, it has to be a good step in making the marriage last.  At the end of the day, the only thing you have left of any deep personal value are memories made with those you love.


  • Tiffany Ann Beverlin

    Tiffany is the CEO/Founder of, a unique website, started after her own divorce to help other divorcees, divorce healthier and happier!

    Tiffany Beverlin was born outside London and came to the U.S. for a promising job at Universal Studios after graduating from Oxford Brookes University (UK). Then she married, and gave up her burgeoning career to stay home and raise three children. During her fifteenth year of marriage—and after a decade out of the work force—Tiffany was forced to recycle her life. She was repeatedly told she was unemployable since she was out of the workforce so long. After a fortuitous dream about problems selling her own engagement ring, she created a company for that purpose. rose up as the marketplace that specializes in selling goods from one’s divorce. quickly became a gathering place for the divorce community who became inspired by Tiffany's personal story. Today, the site consists of blogs, secondary divorce services directory and “community zones” to assist the divorce community. Tiffany has appeared on AOL News, FOX News, CBS News and dozens of national publications and radio shows, bestowing hard-hitting advice on divorce. She is also the Author of My Dreams Recycled, and a certified Life & Divorce Coach.