Josh Waitzkin, chess prodigy and author, said that before his son was born he remembers hearing parents say, “The weather is bad.  It’s raining.  We can’t go outside to play.”  So when he became a dad, he made it his plan to see all weather as good weather for exploring.  Chaos over control.  He and his son Jack have never missed a rain storm or a blizzard.  Because it’s always a good time to play.

How many times have we decided that our situation is not optimal?  I’m not suited for that job.  I won’t be strong in that group.  I can’t win at that game.  I won’t stick to that food plan.  

How do we know if we haven’t tried?  How can we succeed if we haven’t committed?

We all know stories of people who sign up for the marathon and they’ve never been a runner.  What happened next?  Their investment in an idea of who they are made them act.  They started to put the alarm on before work and get some training in.  They made time for the gym.  They ran whenever they could fit it in.  Did their days have more hours than before?  No.  They decided to grow into who they were meant to be.

Author Napoleon Hill who wrote Think and Grow Rich said, “Any person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to burn his ships and cut all sources of retreat.  Only by doing so can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win — essential to success.”  

If you are not 100 percent committed, you will hit snooze.  You will skip the gym.  You will pass on the interview.  You will miss the networking event.

You have to decide that there is no way to go but forward.  You have to be all in.  

Is the new marathoner trying to win the race?  No.  They are trying to run the race against themselves.  And once they cross that finish line and see that anything is possible if you believe, their mind has been stretched and cannot go back to its old shape.  The perspective has changed.  The identity has become something new.  

They see the rainy day as the perfect day to go exploring.

What perspective can we change today?  What ships can we burn?  What race can we run?


  • Siobhan Kelleher Kukolic

    Mother-of-three. Freelance writer. Author. #HuffPost blogger. Believer in dreams.

    Siobhan Kukolic is a storyteller at heart. She writes to inspire the belief that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. She recently published her first book, available on Amazon and Indigo. The Treasure You Seek is about following your heart, believing in yourself beyond reason, embracing failure and knowing that you are enough. It includes inspirational stories about famous failures, cultural icons, world leaders and regular folks like you and me. The goal is to remind us that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. A perfect read for graduates from elementary school through university, people starting their career, changing jobs or retiring, friends going through a medical crisis, new parents, empty nesters and anyone who wants to be inspired. She started her career as a copywriter working on campaigns for organizations including Esso, Mead Johnson Nutrition, Grand & Toy, Labatt, and SC Johnson. While raising her kids, she volunteered as co-chair of her school council for seven years, helped get eight 20-foot maples donated for an eco-classroom and co-ordinated the building of a school peace garden with 115 donated trees and shrubs for Earth Day. She co-founded a not-for-profit movement called Blueberry Shark, named after a healthy fruit and the only animal that doesn't get cancer, with a mission to create the healthiest kids in the world. By providing a voice for those who didn't have one, she rallied enough media attention to help crowd-fund $105,000 in two weeks to pay for an unfunded drug for a mother of two dying of stage-four brain cancer. She also used media attention to nudge the government to change drug coverage policy right before an election and get a $360,000 a year drug covered for a 12-year-old cystic fibrosis patient. Her letters to the editor are frequently published in the National Post and she has represented her neighbourhood by making deputations at city council and the school board. She spends her time blogging, speaking to students and corporations about grit, and juggling the schedules of her three kids as they follow their dreams in competitive Irish dance and ice hockey.