Question mark

I remember my teacher handing out an assignment in Grade 3 and I did not understand what to do next.  The room was silent except for the vigorous scratching of pencils on paper as all the other students got to work.  I was scared to raise my hand and ask a question because I thought it would make me look bad.

I have learned a lot since then.

I yearn to never be the smartest person in the room.  I understand that asking questions and being curious is what leads to growth and solutions.   I know that it can also lead to mistakes as you work to make sense of things but failing fast and rising strong creates game-changers.

Investor and entrepreneur Ray Dalio, who started Bridgewater Associates, one of the most successful hedge funds, said, “Look for people who have lots of great questions.”

Sometimes, when you are new to a room, you do not have the context that others have.  As Tim Ferriss mentioned in a recent podcast, your questions are the pickaxes mining the intellectual treasure of those around you.

You cannot fear mining that treasure.  This allows you to be a sponge and weave that new knowledge into the wisdom in your brain that only you have based on your personal life experience.  From there unique solutions can evolve.  Along with exponential growth for you and your mission.

Chinese philosopher Confucius said, “The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life.”

How can we be a fool for a minute this week?


  • Siobhan Kelleher Kukolic

    Mother-of-three. Freelance writer. Author. #HuffPost blogger. Believer in dreams.

    Siobhan Kukolic is a storyteller at heart. She writes to inspire the belief that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. She recently published her first book, available on Amazon and Indigo. The Treasure You Seek is about following your heart, believing in yourself beyond reason, embracing failure and knowing that you are enough. It includes inspirational stories about famous failures, cultural icons, world leaders and regular folks like you and me. The goal is to remind us that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. A perfect read for graduates from elementary school through university, people starting their career, changing jobs or retiring, friends going through a medical crisis, new parents, empty nesters and anyone who wants to be inspired. She started her career as a copywriter working on campaigns for organizations including Esso, Mead Johnson Nutrition, Grand & Toy, Labatt, and SC Johnson. While raising her kids, she volunteered as co-chair of her school council for seven years, helped get eight 20-foot maples donated for an eco-classroom and co-ordinated the building of a school peace garden with 115 donated trees and shrubs for Earth Day. She co-founded a not-for-profit movement called Blueberry Shark, named after a healthy fruit and the only animal that doesn't get cancer, with a mission to create the healthiest kids in the world. By providing a voice for those who didn't have one, she rallied enough media attention to help crowd-fund $105,000 in two weeks to pay for an unfunded drug for a mother of two dying of stage-four brain cancer. She also used media attention to nudge the government to change drug coverage policy right before an election and get a $360,000 a year drug covered for a 12-year-old cystic fibrosis patient. Her letters to the editor are frequently published in the National Post and she has represented her neighbourhood by making deputations at city council and the school board. She spends her time blogging, speaking to students and corporations about grit, and juggling the schedules of her three kids as they follow their dreams in competitive Irish dance and ice hockey.