So many people hide their struggles so it can be challenging to identify when someone is going through something. If you really focus, however, there may be some signs including isolating themselves or withdrawing from others. The fact that something is not quite right can also show up as a loss of energy or enthusiasm. Another signal could be if the person is acting uncharacteristically irritable or snapping at you. Additionally, neglecting their normal obligations or responsibilities may also give you a clue related to their changing disposition so pay attention to these indicators.
There may be emotional signs as well such as mood swings, crying, appearing down, or just feeling more detached and distant than usual. You may also see it manifest in physical symptoms as well such as sleep issues, changes in eating habits, and complaints about aches and pain such as stomachaches, or headaches.
Self-destructive or risky behaviors may be tell-tale signals as well. This can include substance abuse, excessive drinking, or extreme changes in appearance. Sometimes an individual may actually be vocal about what they are experiencing, expressing feelings of overwhelm or that they are having a hard time managing.
If you see any of these signs with a friend or a family member, it’s time to check in with them. Simply asking them how they are doing can make a big difference and give them an opportunity to share their struggles.
Once someone confides in you that they are having a tough time, it’s important that you acknowledge their feelings and then offer your support. Ask if there is anything that you can do to help them out. Stay focused on them, and don’t make it about yourself in any way. Make this person feel heard, supported and understood.
As part of your conversation, you should validate their experience and convey to them that you understand why they’re frustrated or upset and explain why they are justified in feeling that way. You should also encourage them to take care of themselves. If they want to talk and confide in you further, you should let them share without interrupting them. Do your best not to try to fix the situation. Often, just letting them talk is enough, and giving the offer of support allows them to lean on you further when needed.