Have you ever met someone and thought, where have you been all my life? Or say, I am so glad that you are a part of my life and I couldn’t do this without you.

Folks come into your life, sit at your table, break bread and then BAM! They are gone! One disagreement, one difference of an opinion and they are no longer a part of your circle. The circle that you guarded and kept close to your heart. The circle you protected so this very thing wouldn’t happen to you.

Well….I am here to burst your bubble…Relationships…they are complicated. It has been my experience that even those closest to you come in, take a seat, make a mess and then leave. You are left, cleaning up after them, and asking yourself what happened.

How did this happen…again?

Honestly, it’s not your fault! I have learned that relationships are indeed incredibly complicated, but are necessary!

Not everyone has the same understanding of how to “be” in a relationship. How to “accept” in a relationship. How to “respect” in a relationship, how to “forgive” in a relationship.

I have come to understand relationships are meant for us to grow, learn. I have come across some devastating experiences. Leaving you feeling hurt, confused and sad.

BUT…there is always a lesson that is left behind. When something like this occurs, realign your thoughts. Recount the experience and find what role you may have played. Refresh your spirit with stillness and regain yourself. Surround yourself with those you love and live with an open heart.

To live with hope and joy, we need community and with community comes all the messiness of folks. Don’t shy away from developing other relationships. Don’t close yourself off. Be quick to discern the intentions coming towards you and check your gut. It’s always right!


Live with an open heart. Give generously. You never lose when you live this way.

‘Til Tuesday

Originally published at soulofawoman.blog


  • Annette Ortiz Mata

    Annette Ortiz Mata

    I am a proud Latina. I am Puerto Rican from The Bronx, NY (which makes me a United States Citizen - wink!) My experience being bi-coastal has brought a lot of range to my life and has expanded my vision on how Latinas are perceived on both coasts. With the desire to be informed, educated and entertained, I pursued a career in Communications. I am a graduate of USC Gould School of Law with a Masters in the Study of Law with a certification in Entertainment Law. I am passionate about the truth. I am a news junkie and love to learn something new — Blogger (writer) for Soul of a Woman.blog. I am also the author of "Unpredictable Outcomes - Unmasking my Faith" - www.unpredictableoutcomes.com My hobbies are reading and singing and dancing...I love to laugh out loud. Married to a fantastic man and mother of two incredible sons. Annette Ortiz Mata