Some days we may ask ourselves whether anyone else would be able to relate to the pain we’re experiencing or the perplexing things that happen behind closed doors. We quickly learn that suppression is a form of coping and secrets are for keeping. We’re told we’ll be punished or ostracized if we tell. We may carry the burden of protecting our family’s reputation on our shoulders. Telling would tarnish that. Yet silence is what causes harmful acts to continue.
Some may not be able to relate to our emotional pain. But there are many who do because this is life. If we’re breathing, we have or will experience challenges. We fear something is wrong with us because of our story or because we feel we’re unique in our wounds, but others have similar stories they feel they must keep locked in. They worry about blaming others, shaming others, others who they sometimes even love but were hurt by. It’s not about that though, is it? It’s about releasing pain. It’s about protecting ourselves so that suppression doesn’t fester and lead to more serious pain, potentially manifesting in both our mind and body. This is why sharing stories is like sewing together a thick, comforting blanket of healing.
This is why we share stories. And what is yours? The one you may hold undue guilt or shame about? The one you believe no one would understand? Release it in writing, in song, in dance. Allow someone you trust, a close friend, spiritual guide or therapist, to help walk with you on the journey. Release the shame. It’s not for you.