The first half of 2019 is over and by now, January 1 probably feels like an eternity ago to you – as do the goals and resolutions you so enthusiastically set out to accomplish back then.  The truth is, there’s nothing magical about January 1. It’s just a day when tens of millions of people collectively decide to make themselves better, but as you may know from your experience, such decisions rarely last. My guess is that by now your pledge to lose weight, get in shape, and cut out junk food are now merely things you attempted and your goals have truly faltered.  

No worries. If you haven’t successfully kept your resolutions, see it not as failure but rather as a learning experience and an opportunity to hit the reset button, tweak your approach, and start fresh.

Here are some tips for reaching your goals as you head into the latter half of 2019:

1. Realize the power of your mind.

Without the right mindset, you’ll remain stuck.  Every elite and amateur athlete that does well, every performer that gets a rousing standing ovation, and with every successful negotiation made, the person believed in him or herself and approached any challenge fearlessly.  You can do the same.

2. Make it all about you.

Internal motivation is far more powerful and lasting than externally driven motives. For example, it doesn’t make sense to strive for a size 2 just because it’s the style du jour. Your resolution should meet your needs, not those of others.

3. Feel inspired.

Strive toward something positive, such as growing your business and investing in smart strategies towards that end rather than out of desperation (such as waiting until you can’t pay your bills to take action). And if you want to succeed, be realistic and be detailed.

4. Think positively.

The more you focus on not doing something, the more your brain will want it — remember the magical attraction of a “confidential” label on a letter? Rather than saying, “I’m not going to eat junk again,” say: “I’m going to improve my diet by adding healthy foods such as whole-grain cereal and replacing soda with water.”

5. Think long term.

A common mistake — and a reason for resolutions not being maintained much beyond winter — is that they are set too high and too rigidly. A lofty goal may be unobtainable and lead to frustration if you don’t achieve what you want. Holding yourself to rigid and extreme standards such as “I have to lose 30 pounds this year” doesn’t allow you many options between losing 30 or none. This thinking promotes perfectionism and may lead to a sabotage of all efforts.

So, as you head into the second half of the year, look forward with optimism and don’t let the first half of the year determine your fate. Every day from here forward presents an opportunity that you can seize in your pursuit of success. 

Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days by Jonathan Alpert.

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  • Jonathan Alpert

    Psychotherapist, executive performance coach, and author of Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days. Twitter: @JonathanAlpert

    Jonathan Alpert is a psychotherapist, columnist, performance coach and author in Manhattan. As a psychotherapist, he has helped countless couples and individuals overcome a wide range of challenges and go on to achieve success. He discussed his results-oriented approach in his 2012 New York Times Opinion piece, “In Therapy Forever? Enough Already”, which continues to be debated and garner international attention. Alpert is frequently interviewed by major TV, print and digital media outlets and has appeared on the Today Show, CNN, FOX, and Good Morning America discussing current events, mental health, hard news stories, celebrities/politicians, as well as lifestyle and hot-button issues. He appears in the 2010 Oscar-winning documentary, Inside Job commenting on the financial crisis. With his unique insight into how people think and their motivations, Alpert helps clients develop and strengthen their brands. He has been a spokesperson for NutriBullet, Liberty Mutual insurance, and Enterprise Rent-A-Car. Jonathan’s 2012 book BE FEARLESS: Change Your Life in 28 Days has been translated into six languages worldwide. Alpert continues to provide advice to the masses through his, Huffington Post, and Thrive columns. @JonathanAlpert