On Sunday I found myself sitting on a bench, peacefully contemplating the Lake in “Paradise Lost”, a nice Kenyan location, where you can enjoy boat riding, horse riding, camel riding, fishing, camping & picnics, caves and water falls visits.
I was with a long-time friend, smiling and singing. Open conversations, considerations about life, relationships, culture, traveling, dreams, present and future. What makes a person really happy? Surely Companionship, Sharing a Travel, having the space to Create, Expressing your mind about topics and discussing, being able to Truthfully Feel & Be Yourself in the presence of the other person/people, not needing to perform (performance are required at work).
Approaching it from a philosophical way, I read interesting answers by Henry Miller, an American writer and Bertrand Russell, a British philosopher (and logician, mathematician, historian, writer, social critic, political activist, and Nobel laureate) on how to best grow old. Mr. Miller wrote that “if you fall in love again and again, if you can forgive as well as forget, if you can keep from growing sour, surly, bitter and cynical….you’ve got it half licked”.
Bertrand Russell thinks that at the heart of a fulfilling life is the dissolution of the personal ego into something larger. If your interests grow wider and more impersonal, the ego recedes and your life becomes increasingly merged in the universal life. The “individual human existence should be like a river- small at first, narrowly contained within its banks, and rushing passionately past rocks and over waterfalls. Gradually the river grows wider, the banks recede, the waters flow more quietly, and in the end, without any visible break, they become merged in the sea, and painlessly lose their individual being”.
On the business, entrepreneurial side, I listened to this small clip by motivational speaker Lewis Howes, with five tips on how to be yourself, help others and live an outstanding life. Mr. Howes lists them:
- Find a Philosophical foundation of who you are & who you want to be in the world;
- Do what you Love;
- Surround yourself with People that bring Joy, inspiring and positive people;
- Follow your Dreams – if you are not following your Dreams, why are you here then? What’s the purpose, if you are not in a pursuit of a Dream?
- Find ways to impact as many people as you can- find ways to give back, the more you live in Service, the more comes back to you.
With these three suggestions about Life, Growing Old and Seeing the bigger picture, we need to Love our Lives, whatever happens. Love unconditionally, Continuing to Love, and Change what we do not like. It can take some time, but the fruits of our work will blossom.
My advice to you: Live like a River, and Follow your Dreams, Flourish like a Flower and Forger fast enough. And sometimes, Get Lost. You will find what you are most passionate about again, and you will believe in it again, stronger than before.