If there is one thing that can change everything then it’s taking responsibility for your decisions and for the direction your life goes. I know that often we feel like we’re stuck and there is nothing we can do.

Often we feel like our life is put on hold and we wait for the right moment or person to come.

I know only very few people who take responsibility for their lives. These people are much happier and successful than the rest. They work towards their dreams and make things happen on their terms.

It’s very liberating to take charge of your life with all the bad and good. You don’t need to waste time thinking what if and how it would be nice if it were different.

When I was starting my business I was stuck with an idea that someone would help me or at least tell me what I should be doing. There were many people who were telling me that they would help me with something specific or who knew other people in area of my business whom they could connect me with. I really did believe that they’d do what they promised and I felt very grateful for that.

So I was hesitating to take charge of my own business since I felt that I had some sort of protection layer between me and the real world.

As any illusion, this too, had no chance for success. It had to burst. I got to a point when I felt tired of waiting for empty promises. I decided that I’ll execute my vision — exactly the way I wanted it.

After taking responsibility for my business, it began to grow. New opportunities literally began to gravitate towards me and I turned from an insecure entrepreneur into a powerful woman who knows what she wants and she makes it happen.

I was flooded by tons of energy — the energy that I previously spent on blocking myself and my business.

Funny thing happened afterwards. Once I didn’t need help, people started helping me. Especially people I’ve just briefly met or have known for a shorter period of time. I was wondering why close people (for whom it’s easy to help and who kind of ‘’should’’) don’t do it. While people you don’t know so well do impossible and such a big difference for you.

Does this ever happen to you? I know more entrepreneurs who have counted on the help of others but none of these people have helped.

When I was thinking what the reason is, I realize that there are two explanations why others don’t help when you need them the most:

  1. You remind them what they could have achieved. First, by creating the life you want, you remind your friends and family of their deeply hidden dreams. Unintentionally, you might trigger their doubts and accusations that they haven’t started doing what they want. To my surprise, being on the way to creating a happy and successful life, can cause a lot of envy. On one hand, your closest people want to be happy for you. Yet on another hand, they cannot because they aren’t happy with themselves and you remind them of they could have achieved in their lives.
  2. They test your readiness to show up for yourself. Second reason is that if you don’t stand 100% behind your dreams and don’t believe it fully, others also won’t believe that you mean it seriously.

When you completely commit to your dreams and take full responsibility for achieving them then other people can feel your determination from you. Others want to be surrounded by people who know what they want in life and who are ready to make it happen.

By taking responsibility you’ll be able to learn from times when things don’t go the way you want and see what you need to change as oppose to wait for circumstances to miraculously change.

When you take responsibility you’ll see new opportunities because you’ll know that your success is up to you. It’ll inspire you to take the right actions and subsequently things in your life will start to move into the right direction.

There is nothing as powerful as committing to your dreams.

When something goes wrong, instead of blaming others, you’ll be able to look at the situation with a willingness to understand and see what could have been done better. Next time you’ll make better decisions and shift the whole situation.

It really doesn’t make sense to get stuck in situation by waiting for someone to save you or blaming others. It’s your life and your decisions. Others don’t care so much as you like to think. You’re the creator of your experiences.

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Love & Light,


Originally published at medium.com


  • Sylvia Salow

    Life Coach, Public Speaker, Author. TEDx Talk:http://bit.ly/TEDxLifePurpose

    Sylvia Salow is a life coach, international public speaker, and author. Her mission is to help people step into their potential by guiding them to release their limiting beliefs that keep them from the life they desire. In her work, she guides people to rewire their mindset, clear up the energy blueprints of limiting patterns, and reconnect them with their inner guidance. You can also watch her TEDx Talk on "How to Feel and Find Your Life Purpose." Download a FREE guide to help you find your life purpose. Or join a weekly newsletter to receive new articles and inspiration, as well as, free past monthly challenges. Read more at her website: www.sylviasalow.com or get inspired by her two books.