During a recent visit to the University of Basel, a professor I’d met earlier that day excused himself.

“It was lovely to meet you,” he smiled, then pointed to his rolling suitcase. “I’m off for my night train.”

“You’re taking an overnight train?” I asked with some surprise.

“Well, yes…if I can avoid flying, I do.”

“Greta got to you, didn’t she?”

“Yes,” he replied. “I guess she did!”

A year ago, I’d never heard the term flight shaming. Now, thanks to 16-year-old activist Greta Thunberg, it’s well-known that flying is terrible for the environment.

Unlike Greta, I did not turn my transatlantic voyage into a public protest by taking a boat (without shower or toilet) instead of a plane.

However, after watching her address at the United Nations, I did something I’d never done before. I googled the environmental impact of flying compared to other options and decided, as a matter of personal responsibility, to purchase carbon offsets.

Should we be surprised that a teenage girl like Greta is changing the world?

Teenagers sometimes live up to their stereotype of being self-absorbed, but what’s more remarkable is their need to make contributions to others.

Whether it’s spending hours trying to cheer up a friend in need, taking care of a younger sister or brother, or reminding adults of pressing social issues, many adolescents would rather be helpful than be helped.

Greta Thunberg is not alone.

Indeed, research suggests that prosocial purpose is “particularly significant during the teenage years, when children’s social world expands and they become increasingly capable of making contributions of consequence.”

Don’t assume that because teenagers take a lot of selfies, they’re only concerned with themselves.

Do listen when teenagers tell you what to do. They are not only our future, they are our conscience. And this Thursday, thank your teenager for all they are giving—to their family, to their friends, and to the world.

With grit and gratitude,
Angela

Originally published by Character Lab

Author(s)

  • Angela Duckworth

    CEO and Co-Founder of Character Lab, UPenn Professor of Psychology

    Character Lab

    Angela Duckworth is co-founder and CEO of Character Lab, a nonprofit whose mission is to advance scientific insights that help kids thrive. She is also a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, where she co-directs the Penn-Wharton Behavior Change For Good Initiative and Wharton People Analytics. Prior to her career in research, she was a math and science teacher in the public schools of New York City, San Francisco, and Philadelphia. Angela’s TED Talk is among the most-viewed of all time and her book, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, was a #1 New York Times best seller. You can sign up to receive her Tip of the Week here.