Being successful is a blessing and a curse, right?
You enjoy the success, but it’s never enough. When you’re in college, you ace one exam, just to take another. You kill it one semester, take a quick break, and start again.
And the workforce is no better. You get one job, just to climb the ladder to the next position. Or get the raise. Or get a better job. Or you start a business and make $5k, be happy for one day, and work to reach $10k.
And it’s worse when you’re single. I’m not just talking about not having a partner to celebrate with, or to hold your hand when it’s tough. I’m talking about something much worse.
The other success trap. The one in which people assume that because you’re doing great in one area of your life, you’re supposed to be great at everything. They constantly ask, “why are you still single?” Why is everything else so easy, but dating is so hard? And you get frustrated, because you don’t know the answer to that, either.
Well, I do. Years of failing taught me. The things that make you attractive and great in the workforce, aren’t attractive in dating.
Love is less force, more fun. Less grind, more grace. Less push, more pulling people into you.
And how do you do that? Have fun! Get a hobby! Go out and be open to having a good time, instead of determined to find a good man. Be the woman who is unapologetically herself. And be open and receptive to talking to everyone you meet. The men who aren’t your soulmates may still have a good joke to brighten your day!
Force will always lead to frustration. Only when you embrace ease will you be able to have a happy and fulfilled life.