I have realized that in life, the frame we put around our circumstances is what makes all the difference. Do we see our cup as half full or half empty? Do we focus on our shortcomings or on our gifts?

My three children are all Irish dancers and they have learned through years of competitions to point out the improvements rather than the score. Because if happiness was only found in a win, they would miss out on so much learning and growth and joy along the way.

Whether it’s about weight loss or climbing the ladder at work, relationships with your significant other or the dynamics between parents and kids, it will never be perfect. We are all lovable, hot messes of dysfunction. But if we try our best and look at the bright side, we are moving in the right direction.

Former professional baseball player Wade Boggs once said, “A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.”

Extraordinary results from ordinary actions. As long as we keep getting up when we fall.

As Rocky Balboa once said, “Every champion was once a contender that refused to give up.”

You are a champion. As long as you believe you are inside. Frame every day with that outlook and the outcome is inevitable. Because the X factor is you.


Photo credit: Raphael Schaller

The frame we put around our circumstances.

Originally published at www.huffingtonpost.com on May 30, 2017.

Originally published at medium.com


  • Siobhan Kelleher Kukolic

    Mother-of-three. Freelance writer. Author. #HuffPost blogger. Believer in dreams. www.siobhankukolic.com

    Siobhan Kukolic is a storyteller at heart. She writes to inspire the belief that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. She recently published her first book, available on Amazon and Indigo. The Treasure You Seek is about following your heart, believing in yourself beyond reason, embracing failure and knowing that you are enough. It includes inspirational stories about famous failures, cultural icons, world leaders and regular folks like you and me. The goal is to remind us that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. A perfect read for graduates from elementary school through university, people starting their career, changing jobs or retiring, friends going through a medical crisis, new parents, empty nesters and anyone who wants to be inspired. She started her career as a copywriter working on campaigns for organizations including Esso, Mead Johnson Nutrition, Grand & Toy, Labatt, and SC Johnson. While raising her kids, she volunteered as co-chair of her school council for seven years, helped get eight 20-foot maples donated for an eco-classroom and co-ordinated the building of a school peace garden with 115 donated trees and shrubs for Earth Day. She co-founded a not-for-profit movement called Blueberry Shark, named after a healthy fruit and the only animal that doesn't get cancer, with a mission to create the healthiest kids in the world. By providing a voice for those who didn't have one, she rallied enough media attention to help crowd-fund $105,000 in two weeks to pay for an unfunded drug for a mother of two dying of stage-four brain cancer. She also used media attention to nudge the government to change drug coverage policy right before an election and get a $360,000 a year drug covered for a 12-year-old cystic fibrosis patient. Her letters to the editor are frequently published in the National Post and she has represented her neighbourhood by making deputations at city council and the school board. She spends her time blogging, speaking to students and corporations about grit, and juggling the schedules of her three kids as they follow their dreams in competitive Irish dance and ice hockey. www.siobhankukolic.com