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Success is a word used for just about everything. Success in life, in love, in business, in education, in careers . . . and the list goes on.

I decided to look at the word success as a label, given by society, parents, family, friends, and colleagues. The measurement of success should be our own. In other words, we have to own it. If we are happy with what we do, it’s a success. If we are healthy, it’s a success. If we make ends meet in this drab economy, it’s a success. Well, even if we find parking in a super busy mall parking lot, it’s a success.

So, I learned to measure my successes in small doses, and guess what? I feel pretty successful. Nobody can rain on my parade; nobody can tell me if I’m successful or not by their measurement of the word. It’s a word! That’s what it is.

Words are words. What you make of them is another story.

We like to take everything personally, because we were brought up this way, because we were trained to strive for something others have and we don’t. We measure everything by what someone else is doing or not doing. How about we stop for a moment and start pondering about life? When is good, good enough? When is a paycheck that pays the bills enough? Why are we in this frenzy of more, more, and more?

Keep thinking about this for a moment. You are a success, because you’re alive, here, now. The rest is the “sauce” of life. If you are happy with what and who you really are, you’re a success. Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.

Don’t be a Grinch. So many people complain every single day of their lives: “Oh I don’t have enough money.” “Oh s/he said this or did that.” “Oh I’m fed up.” “Oh I wish things were different.”

S T O P.

If you’re in this self-pity game, you will receive only negativity and more problems. The more you FEEL and think and talk about your problems, your misery, your inadequacy, your this and your that, the more likely the universe will give you a truckload of just that. WHY? Because you become the magnet of summoning EVERYTHING that you think and spend your energy on.

So, believe and FEEL that you’re a success; feel that sentiment of gratitude for your loved ones, for the roof over your head, for the life that YOU have chosen to live. NOBODY tells you what decisions to make in life-NOBODY but YOU is responsible for your actions, your thoughts, your decisions, and your feelings.

Cheer up! We have A LOT to be thankful for, and YES, we’re all a success, in a small or big way. It just depends on how we look at it.

Turn the lights on in your heart and mind, and KEEP THEM ON!

Originally published at risk-squad.com

Author(s)

  • Mariella Stockmal

    Operations & Risk Management Executive

    I combine many years of experience and strategy to create results across various functions from eCommerce, Finance, Operations, and Risk. Skills and Experience: * Operations & Office Management * Finance, Fraud Management and Safety Measures creation to protect brands and companies. * Claims, Disputes and Chargebacks (Vantiv, Braintree, Ethoca, PayPal, Shopify, Global Collect, Adyen etc.) * QuickBooks and Bookkeeping * Policy Creation specific to an organization’s goals * Ability to solve problems * Desire to learn new things * Passion and adaptability * Slack, Zoom, G-Suite, and other office/business software * Accustomed to handling sensitive, confidential records. * Diplomatic and tactful with professionals and non-professionals at all levels * Word, Excel, Google Drive, Social Media * Fully equipped home office for remote work assignments * Languages: Greek, German, English, conversational French and Italian Job History: Owner at Business And Risk Management Jan 2018 – Current Blog about Business, Risk, Finance and Fraud Protection. Risk Manager, TrackR September 2015, January 2018 Protected the company from fraud and unauthorized transactions. Brought chargeback rate down from 17% to 0.3%. Also worked with QuickBooks online doing reconciliations and entering data. Chargebacks – Claims Manager, FastSpring December 2011 – September 2015, Santa Barbara, CA Worked closely with co-founders, managed Fraud and Chargebacks, and worked with QuickBooks. Created policies, updated back end to portray proper sales/refunds. COO, SteveStockmalMusic.com Music Education - Music Performance Risk Management and Policy Creation, Financial management. Operations Manager at Santa Barbara International Film Festival Office Operations Management, policy implementation. COO, D. Kallonas & Son. Ltd. Policy creation, overall Company operations, international travel and finance