Motherhood doesn’t have one particular image. It is not a one-look-fits-all position. Mothers are as varied as the people of the world. Moms can resemble anyone from Auntie Em in “The Wizard of Oz” to the lovely Gwyneth Paltrow.  (And speaking of Auntie Em, Auntie she may have been, but she was a mother to Dorothy!)

Motherhood is a state unto itself. This is an article about all the people who take on the role of mother. It is for those who may not have the title but who do the job of mothering. To all of you, I offer a big thank, you because the position of being a Mom isn’t an easy one. It’s difficult, demanding, exasperating and exhausting and — surprise! — those who mother us take it on willingly.

Moms are intelligent, good-looking, active and independent. They’re sexy, too, and yes, kids, we do have sex! We’re normal, and that’s something for which you should be grateful!

Mothers don’t even have to be female; sometimes Dads or Grand-Dads take on the role of mothering when needed and do a great job of it.

Being a mother cannot even begin to be described in the dictionary. No definition takes into account all that mothering requires. Motherhood is not neat; it is messy. It isn’t easy. It is the hardest job in the world. A child is loved, nurtured, cried over, helped, healed, and given your heart. Sometimes that precious baby ends up breaking the heart you gave so unreservedly. It is emotionally and physically draining. It is heartache when they hurt, heart-happy when they are well, and heart pride at their accomplishments.

A mother doesn’t have to give birth to her child. The term “biological” has little to do with the capacity to love a child. A child becomes yours through the years you raise and care for him or her. They become yours simply because you care enough about them to be there to protect and love them. Adoption is only a word but mothering is an action. God bless all mothers who take children into their hearts and homes to love.

Motherhood is earned, oh boy is it earned! It is earned in tears, sleepless nights, and agonized worrying. It is earned in fears you have for your child; fears of devastating illness, fears of accidents, and fears of the craziness of the world in which we live.

Mothering knows no age limits. Grandmothers who have raised their own children, may suddenly find themselves becoming a Mom to grandchildren when, for one reason or another, no one else can care for them. They step up to the plate admirably to give love and caring.

And let’s not forget all the women who have gotten bad press over the centuries due to that Cinderella fairy tale. Step-mothers can be awesome loving individuals. I know; I have a wonderful loving, woman who is my step-mom.

So to all the moms of every possible kind, I dedicate this article. One day of the year is not enough to honor you. The gift you give us is, as the commercial says, priceless!   

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  • Kristen Houghton

    Kristen Houghton

    Thrive Global

    Kristen Houghton is the award-winning author of the popular series, A Cate Harlow Private Investigation.  She is also the author of nine novels, two non-fiction books, a collection of short stories, a book of essays, and a children’s novella. Her horror novel, Welcome to Hell, was nominated for a Bram Stoker Award. Houghton has covered politics, news, and lifestyle issues as a contributor to the Huffington Post. Her writing portfolio includes Criminal Element Magazine, a division of Macmillan Publishing, Today, senior fiction editor at Bella Magazine, interviews and reviews for HBO documentaries, OWN, The Oprah Winfrey Network, and The Style Channel. Before becoming a full-time  author, Kristen, who holds an Ed.D. in linguistics, taught World Languages on the high school and university levels. Along with her husband, educator Alan William Hopper, she is a philanthropist for Project Literacy and Shelters With Heart, safe havens for victims of domestic abuse and their pets . mailto:  [email protected]