As I sat down to figure out what I wanted to write today, as we head into a post-election world, a strong pull to speak about moving forward arose within me. 

As I thought about what this might look like, three important pieces came forward that I wanted to share with you, no matter who you voted for and how you are perceiving our country’s election results. 

What I write below are pieces we need to put into practice to create a more cohesive and loving world. 

We must move out of being right and into being kind. 

Here’s how:

1.See another’s humanity. 

Whether we agree with someone or not, there’s a person standing in front of us (or on the other side of the screen), with feelings and a heart. 

They may have challenges you don’t know about that have shaped (or hardened) them in a certain way, but meeting them where they are never has, nor will, change anything. 

Instead, if you can, and I know this can be hard at times, see their humanity. 

One tool I love for this, especially when I’m triggered, is to place my hard on my heart and breathe into it. This helps me to remember to be kind and compassionate. This helps me to remember that we’re all connected. This helps me to remember there’s another human being there, too.

2.Honor our differences. 

We can get taught at a very young age that our differences are bad or wrong. In part, this was programming learned hundreds or thousands of years ago to keep us safe. After all, if we didn’t recognize another’s differences, we might get hurt or die. 

Now, though, the same doesn’t apply. With this, just because someone is different or has a different view from you, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them or you. 

So, how do we do this?

For me, when I find this coming up, I notice my discomfort in my body, getting as present with it as possible. 

Then, I turn up the dial on it, feeling my discomfort to its full extent. 

Once, and even while I do this, I breathe into my body. Doing this not only helps to create more space, but it also rewires this in my body, so that the next time this comes up for me, I have more space and comfort.

3.Have more conversations. 

The final piece I’m going to talk about today is having more conversations. Can you get curious about another’s stance versus drawing a line and assuming they’re bad or wrong? 

This takes practice, but the more we do this, the more we invite open, honest and understanding people into our lives.

For me, as part of this, I invoke curiosity. This can include wondering why they think or feel the way they do, and even asking some version of, “Can you tell me more about that?”

As I do this, I soften my heart and keep my body open, noticing what comes up in me as they share their experience or opinion. 

With this, I find the more I can stay in curiosity and out of judgment, again, remembering their humanity, not only does this help my relationship with that person, but the better I feel and the less my day gets derailed. 

This last part is so important, as how many times have you allowed a conversation to completely upset your day? When we do this, we choose them over us. Instead, when I can keep my end goals in mind, which often include connection and feeling good, my interactions go a lot better.

And, these pieces, my friends, will not only bring us into the next phase of our life and relationships, but into the next phase of our world and humanity, which was always where our former political climate was meant to take us. 


  • Deb Acker

    Author, Speaker and Intuitive Relationship Healer for Women - What if you never had another painful relationship again? To begin, join me at my Complimentary Putting an End to Painful Relationships Masterclass at

    About Deb Acker: Before Deb turned two, her dad left and when she was seventeen her mom passed away. Until Deb truly understood and healed the root cause of these, these two life-changing moments caused deep pain in her relationships and life that took many years to heal. In the process, she would learn forgiveness, the importance of owning all of our emotions, not just the good ones, and most importantly, how to heal deep-rooted patterns and create long-lasting relationships and life-changing transformation to powerfully support her clients. As an intuitive, Deb's New YouTube Channel, The Relationship Healing Channel for Women, as well as her Living Deeply Workshops, Audios and Programs, expand upon these lessons and many of the tools, awarenesses and concepts shared in her first book, Living Deeply: A Transformational Journey Through Deep Pain, Loss and Abandonment to Healing, Self-Love and Miracles. When she's not clearing energy blocks & childhood patterns, teaching, speaking or writing, which have included writing for The Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, Women for One and Thrive Global, you can find Deb working out and traveling the world. To find out more about Deb, visit her at, and join Deb at her Complimentary Masterclass, Putting an End to Painful Relationships: The Three Biggest Issues that Keep You Stuck, Hurting and Struggling, Repeating Your Relationship Patterns at