We’ve lost our confidence.

And we spent our whole lives building it.  From learning to walk, to receiving our report cards in school, to earning degrees, getting promotions, buying property or taking vacations.

All those activities told us we were doing okay.  That we were moving in the right direction.

Then suddenly, all that certainty was gone.  People lost jobs.  Schools closed.  We became isolated in our homes not knowing when we might be able to go back to life as we knew it.

Our confidence dwindled.  All the small daily interactions that showed us who we are disappeared.  When we helped someone on the train ride to work it made us feel like a good person.  When we told a joke that made a colleague smile it made us feel happy.  When we heard our kids tell stories about a successful day at school or about receiving a post-secondary acceptance letter it made us feel like all was well in the world.

So where do we go from here?  We must build up our confidence again.  And we must build it up with hope.

Setting a schedule gives us hope that we’ll accomplish something.

Doing some stretches or going for a walk gives us hope that our body will be energized.

Reaching out to our friends and family virtually gives us hope that we are still the same person we were before the pandemic.

Because we are.

Hope is an essential need.  Especially for our mental health.  Hope gives us some control.  It reminds us that we can make a difference.  Helps us remember that we are enough.  And epic.  And invaluable.  And loved.

Each little burst of hope is a stepping stone towards getting our confidence back.  And once we get it back, there’s no telling how many silver linings we’ll find on this incredible journey we call life.



  • Siobhan Kelleher Kukolic

    Mother-of-three. Freelance writer. Author. #HuffPost blogger. Believer in dreams. www.siobhankukolic.com

    Siobhan Kukolic is a storyteller at heart. She writes to inspire the belief that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. She recently published her first book, available on Amazon and Indigo. The Treasure You Seek is about following your heart, believing in yourself beyond reason, embracing failure and knowing that you are enough. It includes inspirational stories about famous failures, cultural icons, world leaders and regular folks like you and me. The goal is to remind us that we have all we need to be the change we wish to see. A perfect read for graduates from elementary school through university, people starting their career, changing jobs or retiring, friends going through a medical crisis, new parents, empty nesters and anyone who wants to be inspired. She started her career as a copywriter working on campaigns for organizations including Esso, Mead Johnson Nutrition, Grand & Toy, Labatt, and SC Johnson. While raising her kids, she volunteered as co-chair of her school council for seven years, helped get eight 20-foot maples donated for an eco-classroom and co-ordinated the building of a school peace garden with 115 donated trees and shrubs for Earth Day. She co-founded a not-for-profit movement called Blueberry Shark, named after a healthy fruit and the only animal that doesn't get cancer, with a mission to create the healthiest kids in the world. By providing a voice for those who didn't have one, she rallied enough media attention to help crowd-fund $105,000 in two weeks to pay for an unfunded drug for a mother of two dying of stage-four brain cancer. She also used media attention to nudge the government to change drug coverage policy right before an election and get a $360,000 a year drug covered for a 12-year-old cystic fibrosis patient. Her letters to the editor are frequently published in the National Post and she has represented her neighbourhood by making deputations at city council and the school board. She spends her time blogging, speaking to students and corporations about grit, and juggling the schedules of her three kids as they follow their dreams in competitive Irish dance and ice hockey. www.siobhankukolic.com