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Emotions and workplace or corporate are often not seen in the same sentence unless we’re talking about emotional intelligence. There’s this instant response that the two don’t mix and emotions simply don’t belong in the workplace.

Yet, over the years, we’ve had emotional intelligence courses and workshops and the like become increasingly popular. Not because we’ve become more accepting of the concept and understand the importance of EQ in the workplace. But rather we’ve needed more understanding, increased awareness and frankly more acceptance that the very makeup of US as human beings, is that we are made up of emotions.

We’ve had to learn how to recognize them in the workplace and understand how to best manage them.

If you ask Psychology Today, they define emotional intelligence or EQ as it’s often referred to as “the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.”

Daniel Goleman, a well known international psychologist and author of “Emotional Intelligence” and articles such as “What makes a Leader” says there are 4 domains or traits to EI – self-awareness, self-management, empathy and relationship skills.

Emotions are your guide to help you from one decision to the next

It’s become somewhat of a guidepost to better understand how to recognize some of these so-called traits in emerging leaders, yet we’ve got a long way to go.

As leaders, understanding the importance of identifying soft skills and assessing those skills (empathy being one of them), are usually more challenging to quantify compared to hard skills.

They’re also still highly misunderstood and often we throw labels on people, particularly women in the workplace as “too emotional” when we don’t understand their unique skill or gift.

Someone who is:

Emotion Label Reality
Highly empathic Too emotional Highly empathic
Highly sensitive   Weak   Highly sensitive
Compassionate   Too sensitive   Compassionate  

These labels are misused for very real skills and gifts that many of us possess and often don’t even realize it. In some cases, when there’s a lack of understanding of someone who identifies’ as any one of these emotions, they’re discriminated against and isolated.

The tools and education at our disposal to learn how to recognize EQ in an employee or a co-worker sitting across from us doesn’t help you if you don’t actually take the time to understand what this looks like in that individual.

The value and benefit of an employee who is highly sensitive, highly empathic or even compassionate are beyond what you can assess on a piece of paper.

Some benefits can include:

  • Navigating negotiations in a more powerful way given their ability to pick up on client attitude and/or emotion
  • Being able to work through workplace conflict more intelligently
  • Insights and understanding to better connect with another’s point of view

There’s always value in emotions, but especially in the workplace when you can understand what they are and how to use them to your benefit.

The future of work I envision is one where EQ is no longer something we need to continue to ‘learn.’ But simply come to recognize as part of who we are as human beings. That emotions are part of life and we begin to see the benefits and advantages of how to actually USE them to our advantage in the workplace vs. being seen as a detriment.


  • Lisa De Nicola

    Leadership Coach & Corporate Consultant

    Lisa De Nicola, ICF


    Lisa De Nicola is an Intuitive Leadership Coach and a 'go-to' dedicated to helping businesses bring out the essence of their biggest resource - their people. She partners with leaders to help them lead more authentically, bring meaning back to their business and be inspired by life. Lisa brings 15 + years of experience working in the world of talent for multi-national, global organizations sharing knowledge, spiritual tools and practices and business insights to high achievers looking to transform the way they lead from the inside out. She writes on business topics related to workplace culture, leadership and the employee experience to name a few, as well as personal development. She has contributed to publications such as CEO World Magazine, Positively Positive and Business2Community.